Edit: I decided to let it go, as I posted a little farther down this page. People keep giving me advice anyway so I figured I should edit this in up here. Feel free to read the story if you want to lol

So long story short I dated this girl for 3 years, like 6 months ago I broke up with her for unrelated reasons. She tried to get me back for like 5 months, I slept with her a few times for some easy pussy when she threw herself at me but never entertained the idea of getting back together.

So once she realized I wasnt taking her back, she got real personal and just tried to hurt my feelings. The only thing that actually made me mad was she told me that she cheated on me with one of my good friends (at the time) like a year and a half ago. I trusted her and I was faithful the whole time, but apparently she cheated on me and it pisses me off. Even more so that it was with one of my friends that I trusted. I asked him about it, he told me it was true and a bunch of other shit about how she lied and told him me and her broke up, got real hammered and he didnt even remember it happened until she told him..

But whatever, obviously i told him to fuck off and we wont be talking any more. I only needed to talk to him to confirm that it was true. Now that I know it is, I really, REALLY want to try to hurt my ex. She gave me SO much shit ALL the time about how I didnt try, when in reality she was just a stupid slut building a relationship on lies and being a whore.

So I am considering texting her this:

hey whats up? so i have spent some time with my phone records these last couple days, compiling this list of the exact dates and times you sent me texts in which you admit to some interesting things.. including but not limited to: smoking weed, drinking and driving, stealing from your parents, taking acid, taking shrooms, doing coke, being on xanax when you crashed your sable, abusing vicodin, abusing and selling your adderall (which im showing to your doctor too so kiss that script buh bye).. the list goes on. i hope your family knows about all that, cause as soon as im done theyre gonna find out. it's right on my phone records, so have fun trying to convince anyone that its a bunch of bs lol. your the worst kind of liar x, a disgusting cheater whore drug addict. i knew you were a huge slut when i fucked you the first time i met you, yet i trusted you anyway and you betrayed me. so im done helping you hide. its time for you to have no option but to be honest with everyone about what kind of person you are. fuck you slut have a good night


So what do you think, should I send it? I feel like i want to humiliate her, crush her feelings and ruin her life. i havent even STARTED to think about what i'm going to do with these 15 naked pictures i have of her, or the video of me fucking her in the ass and then cumming on her face.. But whatever i do with them, it will be fitting for the disgusting slut that she is. Can I get in trouble for this? We are both over 18 obviously, and i really want to hang it over her head.

Thanks for any insight

To be honest man, i think you're wasting your energy. You're acting out of spite, which is almost never a good thing.

I can understand why you're hurt, I would be too, but do you honestly think this is the best way to go about feeling on top of the world again?

Work on becoming a better person, so good that she can only look up to you and wish that she was with you, and realize how low value she is. That would be a win for you in all ways. I would more use what you have to get stuff out of her that will help you in life, bribe her, no use trying to bring her down and get nothing out of it apart from the aftertaste in your mouth, it doesn't benefit you in any way.

Do it

For your benefit, and mainly so she can solve her problems.

It's not wasting energy. But you have some serious inner game problems that need to be fixed.

Please give me an example to how this is not wasting energy, Vietnam, i disagree with you.

I do agree with the fact that he has inner game problems, which is the very reason he's doing this in the first place.. Waste of energy.

Grow up. She could be fuckin lying so as to get you mad for not taking her back. You already hurt her by sleeping with her "for easy pussy" while she was trying to get you again. Your life won't improve by doing this, and you don't profit from it.

I am happy to back DJ's point up, as it's precisely what i'm saying.

Let's start off with you sending me the pictures and videos. I'll review them and let you know if they are worth sending out to the public

Yeah i feel that. Really tho, this doesnt have anything to do with me trying to feel on top of the world again. I am way over this girl and dating many women right now, enjoying being single. I don't want to hurt her to make myself feel better.. I want to hurt her because shes a terrible person and she deserves it. Nobody should be able to do that to someone and walk away like it never happened.
Yeah. I've never been cheated on before, and it really just makes me think of her as the biggest piece of shit in the world. Anything I did to her, she would deserve. However I'm only 21, and I was in 2 back to back 3year relationships up until 6 months ago.. I am planning on staying single until I'm atleast 25, so this won't be something I have to worry about for a while. I have been spending a lot of energy since then on learning PU, meeting and enjoying lots of women, improving my inner game and confidence, and generally focusing on myself and improving myself as a person instead of spending all my time and energy on a girlfriend.

I know the high road would be to just let it go and never talk to her again, but the thing is I tried to do that after I broke up with her and not string her along, not get nasty and personal, just broke it off clean and let her heal in her own way without making things harder then they had to be. She's the one who fucked around and got all petty, telling me she cheated on me and stuff. Now I want to be done taking the high road, and get a little bit petty myself, because she has been a real bitch and deserves it

As i said, its not a lie i confirmed it with 2 other people. If there was any doubt then I would assume it wasnt true, but it is. Its not about improving my life or profiting, its about her facing the reality that she is a pathetic person with a lot of problems and not being able to hide from it any more.

You're not doing it to improve your life, then why are you doing it?
My old FWB did some horrible shit to me, but does that mean i'm going to go out of my way to make sure justice is done? No, because i know if I react in this manner, it lowers my value.

I will not associate with people of such low value, I will completely ignore them, and focus on things in my life that i actually want. I suggest you do the same

Focusing on something so negative can only have negative results.

You know what - forget about it. I didn't care up until now and I don't really know why I started. She's just a stupid slut and i am happy I'm not in a relationship with her any more.

I just talked to the friend she slept with a couple hours ago and he admitted it was true, and iv been pretty pissed ever since. But I'm already starting to settle down and realize that i'm done with her and it doesn't matter. I'm glad I didnt send her that text, I'm better then that and i'm better then her.

Thanks for helping snap me out of it guys.

I would do this to improve HER life.

I honestly can't stand when people I care about abuse drugs and alcohol.

The point should be that it is in his best interest to not care, VP.

Good luck to the OP here, take care.

doesn't turning the other cheek ever get old?

i find that it is exhilirating to hit back once in awhile, especially if they never see it coming.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

You're asking if it gets old only focusing on things the help improve your life, and as a result, positively progress your life in the direction you want it?
I guess it could get old, but it's a pretty safe rule of thumb to stick by.
Being unpredictable and striking back can also be fun for both parties though, then i think it's entirely applicable, I just don't see it in the OP's case.