So to start off, I feel like all these Casino Dealer Girls get hit on everyday. So I've just been using them to practice game on. Although, it has become something sort of expensive practice. Awkward. Whatever.

To give background I met this girl over the summer. She was memorable for me because I felt like she was the most attractive one out of all the dealers. It just turned out that she was never there in the follow up days I went so I got close to the other two dealers before this one.

Then randomly on that Tuesday before Thanksgiving I went again after about a month hiatus. Randomly, I saw her and as she walked past me, I said Hey as if we were close. (She had dealt to me and my friends previously and in my mind we got along but I guess we weren't memorable enough so after a month she forgot me)

After I said Hey, she came over to me and said "Do I know you?" I go Of course! Then she goes "I don't think so, I think you're thinking of my sister" (Who happens to be Casino Dealer #1, they look nothing alike) I reply "No no, definitely you. No way I could forget you." And then over the course of the night we get to talking and eventually reaches near closing time. There's only a few people left and I go to cash out. I'm running game on the cashier lady (Gotta try on every girl, practice makes better!) when she happens to walk by. She says she's on break and I ask her if she wants to sit down and chat. She says sure.

So we talk. She's a single mother of an 8 year old.

Sidenote: So I know dating mothers is generally not a good idea. I know like they're generally looking for a provider and maybe someone who can take care of her daughter. There's also the risk of if I get along with the child and we break up it breaks the kid's heart. That being said, I'm more of an experience learning kind of guy. Is there anything anyone can that would detract me from wanting to go after this one? I really feel like I should just friend her and ask her about other women. She has a lot of problems. Most of it is because of the kid.

End Sidenote: She dropped out of college to take care of her kid. Lives with her parents. She says she doesn't want to go to school because she wants to spend time raising her kid. She doesn't want her to grow up to be a bad person which is understandable. But I feel like she should still work on her degree. The life she lives right now, it could be so much better. And I understand college degree does not equate better/higher paying job. But I feel like a college degree will give you a higher chance. I feel like she's stubborn about wanting to raise this kid right that she can't see taking care of herself first. So all she does right now is work at the casino and go home, get the kid ready for school, send her off, sleep, wake up and take care of her daughter when she comes home from school, rinse repeat.

Is it weird that even though I only met her for so little that I feel so much sympathy for her?

Last night, I went again and we were talking about what she did for Thanksgiving and Black Friday. Then Christmas came up. I ask her "What are you gonna get me?" She says "I don't know, what do you want? Probably something out of my price range" And then she asks "What are you gonna get me?" I say "I don't know, what do you want?"

I was thinking about this. What if I text her and say
Option #1
"I want a date. A real date one where you give me a chance to really get to know you and where you genuinely get to know me."
OR
Option #2
"For my Christmas present I want you to take me out on a date. One where we have fun and just get to know each other."
OR
Something inbetween option 1 and option 2. Mix and match.

Thoughts?

good luck man.

Id try take her out on a date as a present for her

Then she will always remember it as the cool present she recieved rather than feel like she was talked in to doing as a present for you.

Then maybe buy her something while you're out together! nothing expensive just something cute and in the moment, that will anchor her memory to you as well.

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Also I usually always try to steer clear of using the word date when asking her out. Its too much pressure for both parties.

But since shes a mother maybe she finds more hope in it actually being called a date... So it might work in your favor.

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I went to casino last night with a new gambling strategy and left with 200. Woohoo!

But more importantly I got to talk with CD#3 for about half an hour. I was waiting for my friend to finish either winning his money back or losing it all and I went to the bathroom and noticed she was dealing to one lady. When I came back I asked the lady if I could watch and she said sure. And while she was dealing to the lady I was just occasionally chatting with her about random things. (I guess this is what they call building rapport stage) Eventually the lady she was dealing to lost and she had an empty table except me. So I was able to just talk with her freely. It was just a good conversation overall. One of the topics was about her finding me on Facebook. I didn't want to find her because I wanted her to come to me. (At least, that's what I wanted to think. In actuality, I couldn't even find her) This is also the third time I told her to find me. So once again, I texted a direct link to my Facebook. Then later that evening she friended me.

Still not sure how I want to pursue this but thoughts if I do want to pursue this?