Hey there, could really use some advice here! Here's my story in a nutshell.

Met this girl at a nightclub, made out with her several times throughout the evening. Got her number (couldn't f-close her). Texted her the next day and said thanks for the great time, I had fun. All throughout the week we're texting. She usually texts me back within 15 mins. We eventually make arrangements to go out for dinner on Sunday night (she works Friday and Sat nights).

Go out for dinner, great conversation. I moved from a place of "I just want to sleep with you since we said we're just gonna have fun" to "Wow. You're a cool person. Want to know more about you." Eventually we're back in my car and getting really physical. No sex, but her kisses drive me INSANE. Took her back home, we kissed goodnight, she said "text me".

Something that might be relevant here - she told me she was separated and was on her way to getting a divorce. Just throwing that out there.

Texted her a couple days after. Nothing. Waited a few days until the Monday.

Now the following is a little tactic I've tried before - text a woman who stops responding, but address her as another woman. For instance, once on a Shawna I texted her as "Sharon, thank you for dinner last night. You're a great cook! ". I'd then blame it on hitting the wrong contact in my phone. It's worked before for me, so I figured I'd try that on this particular lady. Still nothing. If you're wondering what I was hoping to achieve, here it is - get her jealous, get her wondering wtf happened that we didn't work out, get her to start chasing me.

So finally texted her back this morning saying, looks like I sent you the last text by accident. Sorry about that. Then followed up with "Looks like you're busy, I'll leave you alone so you can do your thing. Hope you're doing well."

I've left out a lot of details for brevity, but anybody have any thoughts? I really sabotaged myself and this girl actually REALLY liked me at one point.

I'm thinking that a few things may have happened:
-I may have complimented her a bit too much
-I may have taken sex for granted and perhaps that offended her
-I may have not been a challenge for her anymore

Appreciate any feedback, no matter how brutally honest. Thanks!

Good thing aadding that she was seperated or divorcing cu that may be a HUGE factor.

If that is the case then u dug a deeper hole by 'trying to make her jealous'. U may not know if her ex cheated on her.

As for the 'texting', I think I have to write a post on what texting should be used and not abused.

The best thing u had going for u is that u could've been a better guy than her ex...but then again maybe she was the one looking for fun. If she's getting out of a committed relationship, the last thing she's looking to do is settle down so quick.

These r my opinions, I maybe wrong and hopefully shit turns out good for u but at least u got something of info to better understand the position she may be in and see that u may just have to brush her off.

Best of luck, keep ur head up and don't dwell on it too much.

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Thanks TattooToast! Yeah, I've already brushed her off. Maybe I was giving off dating or relationships vibes and she was just looking for fun.

I remember in the nightclub she was going up to other guys. At one point I cut in with her and another dude, but I did it with a big smile on my face too like I was having fun. I ended up asking her how she'd like it if I was going after other girls right in front of her like she just did. She made some comment about the dude and my reply was "Honey, he didn't even put up a fight for you when I came along. Want to be with him? Be my guest." She responds by making out with me on the dance floor and nearly biting my bottom lip off. At one point my hands are on her ass and I'm lifting her off the dance floor.

At the end of the night, I was telling her well I don't know if I should text you, you were going after other guys in front of me. She really wanted me to text her, but told me sees lots of guys. I asked her "So you just want to have fun? That works for me!" Goodbye makeout session, done until next time.

Anyways, I'm not hung up on this girl. I'm just interested in getting feedback on what I may have done to turn her off. More interested in the skills for long term gain.

Props!


U understand that u had something major to do with the outcome and for most men they never admit it. U r extremely intelligent and I praise u.

GOOD JOB!

Next time, don't remind women of ther 'wrong-doing' twice in a short time span. And if she had no problem with u lifting her off the floor by her ass....that means forget everything and just "take her home" cuz she is wet and she knows it.

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Thanks TattooToast, appreciate the encouragement. Haven't met you in person but by the fact you're helping out a stranger already tells me you're a pretty cool person. I'll try to remember your next time I am in the situation.

Anybody have any other thoughts?