Hi

I have just been re-reading some of my post responses and some of the forum messages and I think I just learnt something.

I used to go up to girls and ask them to go out with me for a drink. and I often got rejected. not in a bad way, but you know they were busy or whatever.

And people have said DONT ask them out for a drink. Because they don't know you, you could be an axe murderer, basically, they might not feel comfortable with a DATE with you yet. And I can see that.

So I think I need to change that. So perhaps go for the number. but then at the end of the day you have to meet with her to go forward. so what to do?

If I don't ask her out for a drink then what do I do?

Ask them to go for a walk with you, tell them you're going to a shot close by to where she lives and that she should come and say hey and have a coffee.