Hi guys, I have been having some questions and thoughts lately.

I find that I lack a general charisma, and Im not a naturally socially attractive guy. I sometimes say things that are abit 'off', and while my friends take to it okay, not everyone (esp new people, and girls) does.

How do I have this natural charisma thing going on? Like just chilling, vibing, and really funny?

How do I become naturally attractive, like girls would want to be around me, people love me, without having to go through a, say, step by step process like MM/Magic Bullets/Love systems progression model esque stuff? etc freestyle, natural game?

could use some help here, detailed responses pls guys!

I will respond actively here and update it alot, hopefully it will turn into something great for guys with the same issues as me.

Hey, I can help you here mate.

First off, you need to learn how to influence, and persuade. As a child I always had those two traits, so it wasn't a problem for me. You need to learn how to persuade logically rather than emotionally. As your persuasion becomes more powerful, so does your influence among your friends/girls. They will start looking to you for decisions, and so on. This is not a one day process, this can take months to establish. But better start now.

You want to project a fun vibe. Whatever you feel, the girl feels. So if you're nervous, she will feel nervous around you because you're acting weird. If you're happy and smiling and laughing, she will be the same, because you are projecting a good time. And she is taking her emotional state from yours.


So,

Project a good vibe to be around, and people will look to you for their emotional state.

I didn't really know how to answer this. All i was thinking was 'practice' But i read Viet's response and it makes a lot of sense.

To project a fun vibe, you need the right mindset.

Just have fun. Forget everything you learnt about "value" and being social to get girls. Get 60 years of challenge( great book) and project sexual vibe not social. Spend time being seductive not social and have fun doing it.

Try talking to women like you are already friends or good acquaintances. If you project this kind of comfort with women then you will generally get it projected back at you.

I believe that what you are currently suffering from is a genuine case of shyness my friend.

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I went out today and had a great time with my friends. Both female and male. Came back, and read this, and realised, you guys are truly right. Just have fun. When I let loose and start being the fun guy,people open up to me more.

But one thing i dont get, sexual vibe? how i project a sexual vibe ALL the time?