Alright, so tonight I had to give a group presentation for one of my MBA classes. One of the members happens to be a girl who I would love to eventually get into a relationship with. We've only known each other for about 3 months but so far we have a pseudo-friendship built, but not to the point where I'm in what some people might call the friend zone.

I had already asked her out twice a month or so ago, and unfortunately, I was a pussy and used text messaging to ask. She told me no both times and while she gave good excuses, she didn't ask to reschedule or suggest a different time. So I took that as her not being interested.

But now, things are a little different. We talk a lot more, we flirt a bit, and she has shown very subtle signs of jealousy when other girls pay attention to me. She also makes it a point to sometimes qualify herself, especially if I bring up the topic of relationships. She has also begun touching me all the time for no reason. She lightly taps me when I tell a joke or she has something to say, and insisted on showing me how cold she was today by fondling my face at three different times. These are clearly all IOIs.

So, I figured this means she's finally attracted to me.

Tonight, as I stated earlier, we had to give a presentation. I met up with her beforehand to discuss what we were going to say, etc, and she was in a REALLY bad mood. She looked like she was going to cry, but made it clear that she didn't want to talk about it so I kind of let it go. I made her laugh a bit and finally changed her mood for the better. Victory for Snarg.

So, after the presentation the professor had pizza for everyone since we're clearly in high school again. She ate like, 1.5 slices, and that was it. I had full intentions of asking her to go out to dinner afterward so the pizza kind of threw me off. Fucking pizza. It wasn't even good.

Eventually, we went outside together and talked a bit, and for some reason I pussied out and didn't ask her to go to dinner. I figured she'd have a higher chance of saying no since she just ate, plus she was having a bad day. I got in my car and she got in hers. Just then, the entire PUA community appeared on my shoulder in spiritual form and said "You fucking pussy. You fucking ask her to go to dinner with you. Bitch. Nerd." And so I did.

The conversation went a bit like this:

Me: You know, actually, I'm still hungry as hell. I'm thinking about going to (restaurant name), want to join me?

Her: Hehehehehe tee hee heeeee. You're a bad influence on me, I have so much homework to do tonight. You're still hungry? I mean, I'll go with you but I probably won't get any food.

Now, of all the possible scenarios I could have prepared for, who the fuck saw that answer coming? So I might have fucked this next part up, but hey, fuck it.

Me: Well that's no fun. Don't worry about it, we can do it some other time.

Her: Well no, like I said, I'll go but just won't get any food.

"What the FUCK", I said to myself. What do I even do here?

Me: Well...we could get drinks then. Sound good?

Her: Define "drink".

So at this point, really, could she have made this any more difficult for me? So we bullshitted a bit more and finally she said:

Her: Why don't we just go tomorrow then?

During this entire conversation, I tried to keep it very light and upbeat by occasionally making her laugh, and she had a smile on her face the whole time.

And so, tomorrow it is. But here's my concern: it feels like I sort of pried it out of her to go out with me. Does anyone else get that vibe from this conversation? I don't really understand why she didn't respond more positively based on the signals she has been giving me lately. I thought for sure she was interested in me. Or maybe I'm just being oversensitive.

As always, thanks for taking the time to read my post.

whattttt, man what are you worried about? haha. Interesting story, i liked it. I'm waiting for the climax of the story where the guy stops being up in his head all scared like and starts being direct. Is that coming soon? Get a time and place with her. Meet with her, do everything a normal guy would when he likes a girl. Sounds like you've already done a lot of the work.

Edit: having said that, well done for asking her, and don't worry about any lines you think you may have messed up. It doesn't matter

Thanks for the response. So you don't think she just kind of felt compelled to say yes? I didn't "force" it out of her?

Lead bro, lead!

She obviously wanted to go. Why else would she offer to sit around with you while you get something to eat?

Next time dont over think it and just lead. You've got your own plans and your going to do them with or without her. If she wants to go when you invite her then good for her, if not then w/e.

agreed with the above post.
Who cares, it'll be easy to find out soon enough, stop worrying about her so much. She'll be fine no matter what her reason was to say yes, she can handle herself, you need to handle leading as the above poster said.

From what you've told us everything is going just as it should be, but you're sabotaging it by being in your own head too much. Don't over analyze these things, she WANTED to go with you today and you did pussy out in a sense. However there's always tomorrow, just try to keep it simple and not over analyze the situation.

Yeah pretty much comes down to you've got it all there in front of you, just don't wreck it because of any boundaries you can't get over about your ego. It's all panning out super natural, why would you want to complicate it

Received a text from her this morning:

"Hey im not going to be able to do anything today. I have to go christmas shopping after class with my mom. It's the last day of some sale."

No offer to reschedule + terrible excuse = no interest. Next.

It's pretty hard to follow her, really.

She has been trying as hard as possible to make small talk with me today. Way over the top. I have been polite to her, but haven't been attempting to make her laugh and have stopped flirting completely, because as I said in my last post, I've pretty much "nexted" her (ok, I'm actually just doing that because I secretly want things to turn around and realize that removing those elements might do the trick, shhhh).

Eventually, she randomly brought up the date she canceled and asked if we were good for a raincheck sometime. I just replied with something like "Sure, just let me know."

what do you mean, "sure just let me know"? You're suppose to take the lead man, you're the one telling her what's going to happen.

Yeah, huge mistake. Any idea on how to save that now? This was through texting, by the way.

dude.. what? We told you what to do and you keep over thinking it. Why next her? Cause she had other plans besides you? Your not the center of her universe bro, shes going to have other obligations, especially when your too much of a pussy to lead (not saying that to be a dick, just dont know how else to word it lol).

Take the advise we've given you. Stop over thinking, assume she wants your cock (she obviously does) and lead!

Ring here, put your arse in charge, tell her when and where. Dam. Take lead. Be the leader, call the shots. Easy.

Alright. I'll take action tomorrow then. Thanks again.

Oh, and just so it's known: the reason why I was so quick to next her was because it's pretty obvious she's full of shit with her excuse.

1) Sales don't end on December 1. That simple.

2) No one goes shopping at 9:30 at night. What the hell is even open that late? Fucking Wal-Mart?

You're over analyzing the situation, her excuses are barely relevant. Just arrange another time, the girl shouldn't really have to be the one to arrange another time if she makes an excuse imo, It's almost like a test from the girl to see if the guy is persistent in taking charge.