Maybe it will help if I told a story about a hot girl I once picked up... but failed afterwards...


Ive known her for about 10 years, she was in my class my whole school years up to the age of about 18... Didnt really talk to her much.. Anyway... She came to last years new years eve house party a friend was hosting... I got talking to her... Great situation.. I was telling a story to a group of people, and she decided to join in, listen and I started neging her a few times.. got talking a bit more.. Cant really remember what we spoke about next... but she thought my tatoo was hot etc... and I told her IF u do this.. I will show u my other tattoo.. anyway.. she did.. went to take her outside.. her friend stopped her... then we bumpd into eachother again... we ended up kissing.. exchanging numbers.. then spent the rest of the night with her.. but after that.. when i went to text her.. she didnt respond... i tried again.. she got back to me but then never heard from her... I then bumped into her at a few parties but still nothing.. completely ignored... the funny thing is she lives a few doors away from my best friend so always end up near her lol....

Can someone please try help me out in what I did wrong.. because to this day it really bugs me...

Thanks

Could possibly be buyer's remorse, where things escalated far too quickly without enough comfort building. See, she may have been drunk and thinking that next time she sees you, you are going to expect her to make out with you and get all steamy again and that might put her off. This is just a possible theory from my personal experience as I had buyer's remorse a lot when I first started learning and had a lot of flakes due to it.

Maybe invite her out for some low pressure activity, and even say "Hey I'm meeting some friends later but I have a couple of hours free if you wanted to hang out" or something like that. It will remove the pressure of her having to spend a lot of time in your company and the pressure of things getting hot and steamy. Don't make it seem like a date.

One thing I learned to do to avoid buyer's remorse, is that if I sense things are escalating too quickly, I'll stop and tell her we need to slow it down and then I'll go to somewhere quiet we can talk and get to know one another and build comfort and a connection.

Or maybe her friend likes you and is jealous, or talked her out of it or maybe she has a boyfriend or something. There's myriad possibilities.

Everything you have just said were possibly reasons that I thought lol... Well I mean ive text her a couple of times since then and no response... But I definitely do want to try one last time... Do you definitely think that might work? If not.. Should I just forget about her... or is there anything I could do if I bump into her again?

Thanks alot

It won't definitely work, no. There's a chance but to me it sounds like you might want to move on or at least stop fixating on this one girl if you are starting to do that.

If you do bump into her again, make no mention of her ignoring you and don't be negative or sulky, just be fun and interesting. It's needy to ask her why she ignored you or make a big deal of it.

Definitely not fixating but I wouldnt mind another attempt.. So how long you been learning?

About a year ago I had a major one-itis and I screwed it up. As this was the story of my life so far I thought "Fuck this" and decided to take action and do something about a part of my life that was so far causing me insecurity and unhappiness.

Fast forward a year and I am by no means a PUA, more like a rAFC, but I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.

I still need to work on my approach anxiety, its pretty bad and definitely effects my abundance, but I am making progress

This forum is awesome though, some very wise people on here.

Sounds cool man.. thanks for the advice