So I've been reading some of the pdf of 60 years of challenge. The main point I've been getting out of it is that sexual tension is key. Killing sexual tension kills attraction cause it destroys the sexual vibe, apparently. So I tried to apply this today.

I find that I don't currently have the proper mindset. Consciously, I know that there are plenty of fish in the sea and if a particular girl doesn't respond positively, it doesn't really matter. Subconsciously, I probably still have an element of neediness and fear of being rejected. For example, seductive eye contact is apparently critical. But whenever I have extended eye contact with a girl, I feel uncomfortable and creepy. It even says in the pdf to not fear being creepy. But isn't it creepy just staring at a girl until she breaks the tension by looking away, smliing, or saying something like "...what?". I wouldn't know how to respond to "...what?".

And about touching...I don't know why but I feel creepy sometimes touching. Especially in class when we're both sitting down in such a way that you have to reach in a way that doesn't seem natural to touch, especially when I haven't touched her yet and need to initiate it. I guess it's easier to do in a standing position where I could just stand very close to her.

So what would you guys do?

You're not staring down a girl when you have extended eye contact. It's just a split second longer than usual, it'll really help you come off as a confident guy and most of the time the girl looks away because she gets hit with that "damn this guy is really confident" feeling which in a sense could be seen as DHV. If you do get a response like "...what?" you're probably staring at her for too long, and I'd usually just smirk and glance away for a second.

As for the touching, unless you FEEL comfortable and natural doing it, it won't be enjoyable for everyone. Get into the state of mind that she WANTS to be touched and you're not just doing it for no reason. A move I use in class when I'm talking to a girl one on one and we're sitting close together kind of side by side but not entirely (if that makes sense?) I place my hand on her inner thigh and gently caress it, while continuing the conversation in a normal fashion. They usually respond with moving their hand down and placing it on their other leg, which gives you a great opening for mutual hand caressing.

I disagree with the above user on the eye contact part. Let me tell you something, I examined 60 inside and out. It's my Bible, I have all books printed out and constantly read them, everyone here knows that.

-Always look at the girl until she looks away first, no matter what. Make it a game. If it's during class or when everyone is busy, just keep gazing until she looks away first. If the possibility to approach exists, keep gazing but start walking towards her after a few seconds. Even try to wink, etc.

If the girl says something during the eye contact, that's your cue to wave, introduce yourself.

"What...?"

-I think you have some nice legs (anything that's on your mind). What's your name? I'm Chris (shake hands) keep holding hand, go for IOM.

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

What if a girl calls you out on it? Like if she says something like "Why do you keep looking at me?" This happened to me on a date of mine before.

"There is something in your teeth."

Then precede to help her find it, "No, other tooth...other tooth...got it....gross"

Hahahaha ^^, that's not bad, i might give that a go, and flick their nose

"I like looking in your eyes."

Thanks for transition to opening. It is one of my sticking points with 60YOC, which I have been reading since last week.

I find that the seductive eyes doesn't work well with girls you already know, especially if they have a negative opinion of you. I skipped the 1st pdf of 60 years which talked about opening so I'm assuming whoever wrote it intended for all of it to be applied to girls you cold approach.