Hello All.

I'm relatively new to this, so accept my apologies in advance for lack of know-how/AFC behaviour. I recently re-located to a new city and struck up some good rapport with the girl working in a coffee shop closeby. I am quite aware of the dangers of reading too deep into the interest of these "hired guns" but various colleagues often go into the same place and don't get near the same reaction from her as myself and for that reason I am sure there is some interest.

I originally went in and simply ordered a coffee, and whilst waiting I hit her with (Mystery's?) tattoo opener. This got a very detailed response and after that she seemed very interested in my accent, what I did, etc etc etc. I was aware that she was popular with customers and was often hit on so I tried a couple of negs on her bleached hair and how her parents put her out front to get customers into the shop (her family own the place) to try and take her off her pedestel.

I did enough to DHV myself when she asked about my interests, life, career etc and she seemed keen. However, with her parents constantly close by i was wary of being "that weird customer" and didn't go for a number close.

I've been back at various points since without trying to appear to be going there just to sarge her. At one point when I hadn't been in for a while, she asked a colleague of mine where I had been and if he had seen me around. Anyway, for various reasons I couldn't get over there for a couple of weeks, so when I went in today i expected things to have fizzled out a bit.

However, I was greeted with her stomping over as soon as I entered and going for a big high 5 and a smile (I deliberately missed the high 5 to tease her a little). She stood by me as I drank/ate and was asking what I was up to, while occasionally going and doing her waitressing thing. I was teasing her and she was having a pop back at me too, whilst also making statements such as "so where are you going out this weekend? I think I might come and stalk you." Unfortunately i'm out of town this weekend which is annoying.

I was getting pretty confident that she was interested at this stage, so when she told me she really wanted to go to this new bar that was opening, I just told her "lets do it then". she smiled, seemed a little flustered and gave a little "yeh". She then got called over by her parents and had to see to a few customers. I had finished my coffee and was really conscious that I looked as though I was just sat there waiting for her like a weirdo. I hung on for a minute or two but she was busy and so I finished up and said goodbye to her parents before leaving....

I have a few issues. Firstly, whether or not it looks like I left because I have places to go, things to do etc or whether it looks like I scuttled off when she didn't break the door down when I suggested we go out . Secondly, if anybody has any ideas/gambits/routines to escalate/ask for her number without going out on a limb (especially since her parents are usually within earshot and she could have a boyfriend for all I know) then I would love to hear them.


I'm usually confident to just go and ask the girl, but there is something about her parents being there that just unsettles me (I don't really want to have to fight her dad). I have rapport, I have DHV'd myself to a decent level, she seems interested, her parents are on first name terms with me when I go in, but I haven't pulled the trigger. My main issue is with escalating due to her usually being fairly busy and her parents being around and probably judging the hell out of me. I am thinking I will wait until I am back from my trip this weekend (I am busy until then anyway) and then asking if she is keen to hit the same club as me at the weekend (We've discussed this a few times)...it isn't too formal and sounds innocent enough without her parents thinking i'm trying to rattle through their daughter.

Apologies for the long message and the ridiculous AFC content. I can do better! Advice/thoughts more than welcome. Cheers. T.