Can't believe I'm posting this. But here I am.

I banged this chick on the 1st date about 4 weeks ago. Ever since, we been seeing each other steadily; she sleeps over every weekend, sex is great, and usually see her 1 time during the week on top of this.

I have been very reserved and cautious about expressing anything about the possibility of a relationship. She, on the other hand, has said many times how much she likes me, but we have never had "The Talk."

Soon, she is going away to Europe for a week and a half.

I realize that part of me may be feeling insecure due to this.

I'm going to see her once more before she leaves for her trip.

I guess the question in terms of game is how not to lose my game. If I really do want her as my girlfriend - should I wait till she gets back to broach this subject? How to proceed?

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you have a tremendous opportunity here, if you don't blow it.

the following is only my opinion though.

the way i see it, you have two options.

1. try to make her your girlfriend before she goes away: whether you intend it or not, this could be perceived as incredibly needy behavior and could therefore shift the balance of power to her right before she goes away.

or

2. don't make her your girlfriend until she gets back: which will show you are confident and, most importantly, non-needy and have options.

also, and as a matter of fact, you might choose to use this time away from her to screen her for negative or untrustworthy behaviors.

what better way to get a sense on how she will behave then to see it first hand? wouldn't you rather know BEFORE committing to her?

i say you should game her up till the last minute and continue gaming her with Class-A stuff while she is away. but i don't know that i would 'ever' initiate the talk (i think that is a taboo) and i certaintly wouldn't put a time-constraint on yourself to do it just because she is going away (needy?)

good luck!

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Damn yo - That second one is making a lot of sense!

Mack - one of those lists you posted a while back - the thing where you said 'the person who cares less always has the power' in the relationship --

I have been that person thru all this. But I see the possibility of it evaporating.

As far as the gaming while away - I guess that's a lot of where I'm coming from. I'm not entirely sure how to game her from afar/while she's out of the country. I guess I need to get her email or something! If you have any comments on how to game her from afar in this case would love to hear it.

i t6alk to this forum is beautiful. i like it....