Alright guys, Im wondering about how to approach getting girls comfortable with the idea that we're essentially friend's with benefits. I tend to get the feeling alot of girls are looking to move towards a relationship and right now I'm only going to go there with someone that I really connect with. 5 years of relationships under my belt has taught me to really think about who I decide to go down that road with again... Pretty much all the girls I'm seeing right now dont come close to ticking that box, so Im hoping for advice on how to talk to them about this and make them feel good about what we're doing, rather than it being a dirty little secret type thing. Also how to suggest that we become friends with benefits - besides the blindingly obvious - would be helpful!

One video I watched recommended just being open and telling them straight - right now I'm not sure where I'm at and what I want bla, bla, I just like spending time with you and having fun, if you feel the same and wna have fun with me great!

And I've used this and find it works, although I find it an awkward area, talking about it just makes me feel uneasy. Any thoughts, advice would be much appreciated.

Cheers Fella's - Peace

Sex first, affection second.

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