Based on my own mistakes, and those I see repeated in this forum in particular, I have made two observations that I think are worth noting.

1. Gaming one girl is usually bad. The reason we become desperate, needy, clingy, etc. is that we get caught up in the one girl who shows us any interest or attention. Yeah, maybe you daygame once and get three or four numbers, but once a girl responds the problem is zooming in and focusing on her. Until you are in an exclusive relationship, you should keep gaming other girls, getting new numbers, new dates, etc. Maybe some of us (until recently, myself included) think that we will risk missing an opportunity by not giving her attention, but odds are you will just end up chasing too hard.

2. Long-term gaming is usually bad. A lot of guys talk about gaming a girl for weeks or sometimes even months. I rarely see anyone mention success with this. The story is usually the same, you meet a girl in school, at work, etc, get her number after talking to her occasionaly for a couple weeks. Then you chat with her on facebook adn text her for a couple weeks. Finally you come here asking why she flaked on you when you asked her for a date. From what I've read and done, rapid escalation is always better. This is just a waste of time for you to invest three months of your life, in my opinion.

So what is the point of this? Well a bit of a question to pose to you guys, old and new, veteran and rookie, that read posts on this forum.

Isn't the answer to most questions regarding "how do I game this girl?" just to game other girls?

there's a lot of truth to that statement. much of the fear and inadequacies will figure themselves out if you just keep chugging along and trying different things. but for a lot of guys (myself included) there needs to be that initial kick-start before they realize that this is the case. there was almost like a "tipping point" where the glimpses of success and general entertainment/happiness that comes from being a more social/sexual being begin to outweigh those crippling fears and anxieties.