I was out with a girl last night for the first time and we went back to her place. On arriving she lets me know that she has a boyfriend but recently broke up with him. So I'm messing around trying to kiss her, saying things like "you're hot" etc. and then she replies: "Oh my God, that's what my boyfriend used to say!" Activitiy stops. Secondly, she said the manner in which I approached her reminded her of her ex, as he also just came over out of the blue with some line like "have we met yet?"

So the question is: how do I go about dealing with a girl that's used to being gamed? Secondly, do I give her incentive to get over the boyfriend, or just not get involved and let nature take its course? Let me know what you think.

don't use canned shit, and you should be fine.

"game" isn't about routines and mimicry.

it's about your "presence".

maintain your frame of strength, confidence, uniqueness, and fun

and make sure it isn't replaced with

negs, dhv stories, peacocking, one-liners, and canned material

and you will be fine.

she is wise to people with mega-outer-game

how is your "inner" game?

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Good point by Mack. However, I'd like to add something that is related to your presence. It's the most important thing that you left out. Escalating. Above all, you MUST escalate. If you were Brad Pitt, the most you can have is women hovering around you, you still need to escalate. Everything runs on sexual tension.

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Thanks guys.

My inner game is good. So I know I need to escalate, but the question is how much, how quickly. This was her first serious boyfriend so it might be a drawn-out process. Is this a situation in which I should be more assertive, or just hang back and play it cool?

How much and how quick? That depends. You MUST calibrate. I find physical escalation one of the easier things. Just because I am very sensitive to how another person feels, how comfortable they are, etc. So you escalate as quickly as she is comfortable.

As soon as you're present. Don't focus too much on calibrating, you'll find out that calibrating is already second nature to you. A good rule is that by the time you think, "I should do something", you're already too late.

-seductive eye contact
-caress her hand, try to get her to caress it back, getting her in the zone
-tease her by getting really close to her lips to make out with but back up and say "not yet". after that start using more sexual kino
-if she resists non-verbally, try again (persistence is attractive)
-don't verbalize any of her resistance
-don't fight what she says, act like you feel her but use a few words like "I see."
-don't talk a lot
-don't laugh a lot
-slow down everything, you own time

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