hey fellas.

its been a while since i visited this website
and quiet alot happend accually..
i also learned alot about myself. i'm accually more into relationships than in one night stands and stuff. i finally got laid with a girl i really liked and sex with that kind of feeling is just way better imo.

anyways i got a relationship with a girl since 3 days.
and WTF!
just.. WTF !!

before the relationship started this girl was totally my type of girl
we had great times we laugh alot we are beeing crazy and that kind of stuff. but since i got something her. the feeling arround us totally changed...
she's acting insanely insecure... she has mood shifts every second and when something is wrong with her she's tells everything exept for me..
so i told her wtf is wrong with her without any reply so i was like fuck this shit..
next day(today) she told me she's really jealous when im talking to other girls(Wich i aint stopping btw.. she cant control me like this) and she also told me she really loved me... so i told her i liked her to and stuff. and not an hour later.. the bs starts again.. same routine of feeling fucked up not giving me any attention and proudly spreads on twitter and stuff that she feels fucked.. hell she even changed everything that has to do with me..
she's also flirty with her best friend wich likes her but is 'ljbfed'
the funny thing is this doesnt effect me much only the fact that she gives everyone attention exept for me is weird.. i also assume this is some kind of shit test to see how far she can stretch me with this..


i have to be honest with you guys. offcourse i feel fucked and stuff.. but hell im really starting to doubt on this girl.. it seems she really has some issues(she allways had bad guys who only want to have sex with her and stuf.. and im not that type of guy)..
i still like her.. but if this continues i will break up in no time.. even if she calls me as sexgod and addictive.. it doesnt seem this way.. she says to much and shows to less..

what do you guys think?
i really could use some advice on this..
i think im gonna tell her that she really need to trust me or else to end this relationship. i wanna give her the feeling that there are much more girls out there who deserve my attention. even if i want to save this stuff. because when everything is allright its all a really nice experience but if this continues than i quit because this relationship doesnt add anything postive in my life this way.


hope my english is understandable.

how old are you?

how old is she?

how long have you been with her?

how long have you been "in a relationship" with her?

how many real relationships has she been in?

how many real relationships have you been in?

what would you rate her on the HB scale?

how often do you see each other? and for how long? how much time spent together? every minute?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

not that much.. twice or trice a week.. im sleeping at my college. and i also have friends wich i like to see.

well since you asked this you made me realise one thing..
i start to see that i rushed things and that i was blinded and now its the situation that i start to open my eyes.

maybe you can fix it.

here is what i've learned about women and relationships.

1. what women SAY they want:
- to be in a relationship
- to spend every moment together
- to share every detail
- to trust each other completely
- to be monogamous

2. what women REALLY want:
- to not be controlled
- to have their cake and eat it too
- to have fun, above all else

which guy do you wanna be for her?

#1 or #2?

those ARE the options.....

i will no longer be guy that caters to list #1. i'm so done with that shit.

my outlook is "fuck relationships" as soon as you "define" a relationship and give a girl a title, she WILL lose her fucking mind.

it's a control thing. before she is officially "wife" or "fiancee" or "girlfriend", they behave perfectly, once you have over the proverbial keys-to-the-castle...look the fuck out.

expect young girls you age to be spazzes and to be spastic, it's just the way they all are at that age. society is telling her that she HAS to be in a relationship, but all she really wants to do is explore and have fun.

at your age, you should NOT focus on "relationships", you should focus on growing, learning, and becoming the best man you can be...and pua will help you along that path...to independence and emotional maturity. keep reading here and the veil will be lifted off and you will see what is really going on behind the scenes and learn to master the system as opposed to being a victim of it.

if it were me, i would tell the girl this:

"i rushed things with you. i shouldn't have done that. i'm taking a step back now. it's clear that we both need our freedom." and basically give her permission to do/fuck/think whatever and whoever she wants.

then move on.

shift the power back into your hands.

when you signed the "relationship" lease with her, little did you know that at that moment (in her mind) you gave her 100% of the power...

she is acting crazy, right?

that's because women don't know how to handle power or being in charge.

that's a man's job.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

girls change when you get into a relationship.

@mack

thats true
im guy nr 2
i give her freedom and stuff
she can do whatever she wants but it has limits.. and thats cheating
but she can do anything. i dont mind im pretty relaxed with that kind of stuff..
what you say can indeed be true.
it seems that i need to learn alot more and alot more about selfawareness

i allways was a bit carefull with pua
because i had the feeling it was about treating woman like crap and stuff and thats not how i am. i dont let them treat me like crap either.
but it seems i had a wrong look on pua because it seems to help you be the best guy you can be for your self and for others.
im already busy with creating a positive additude and such

anyways i didnt react on her all day
and yet again she's acting depressed and stuff.
to be honest i even have a feeling she might cheat on me this very weekend
because she's a pretty loose person. she doesnt kiss with others but she does dance and stuff with her guy friends but thats stuff i alow her to do.

but the reason why i think this is because the 2nd time was clubbing with her she kissed another guy. after that she totally cryed and said she's sorry and stuff.
and after that we had sex lol.

no but i have a dark feeling that this behaviour might occure again.

so i took the choice for my self to gain the upperhand again.
because how i acted lately with her wasn't me and thats pisses me off and frustrates me.

so i purposely didnt say anything at all today to her. and boy...
this girl seriously has some issues i quess?
this is stuff she said:
don't react stupid to me if im doing distant while youre doing the same
she's litterly asking for my attention in what i think is a wrong way.. i know for sure she's gonna act bitchy and stuff..

so tbh im not that good in beeing counter productive with this.. i wanna let her know she can't mold me the way she wants to but i still wanna give her a feeling that she knows i like her...

also one of her really annoying habits is that its allways have to go her way.. with like everything even friends and family this is really a shitty habit.
i give her some things offcourse(note not material) noway i give everything she wants. and every time i do this she's start to act bitchy and shitty again..
i started to see this all as a challenge. even though i have a feeling this is not worth the effort.

you guys got suggestions for me what to do?