Just come back from a party to say I'm fuming is an understatement. A girl I dated basically asked this guy back to hers who is STRAIGHT. I asked her what's going on and she basically said she doesn't see him like that and is just a friend. Bullshit. She then proceeded to twist my best friends nipples and basically flirt with him until I dragged her away. This is the same girl that cheated on her boyfriend for me. She also admitted to me that she's manipulative .... hmmm maybe not a good sign. After she flirted with my best friend he basically told me to avoid her and leave her be because she's a hoe.

The thing that confused me the most is that she swamps me with attention, loads of kisses, hugs and doesn't do that with other guys and said that she misses me etc. I'm getting sick of it now. I like her but i feel as though the best thing to do is move on.

Would leaving her be a wise choice at this point?

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

Yeah mate, I would dump her ass. It is possible she was doing that just to try and make you jealous however the fact that she cheated on her ex with you and now is behaving like this at parties is waving red flags. Especially her inviting another dude back to hers to stay, i mean he obviously doesn't think he's going back to play scrabble. Even if she doesn't mean to take him home and fuck him she's putting herself in a really bad situation where that could easily happen, I wouldn't let my gf take some dude home from a party. She sounds like trouble.

The fact that your best mate told you to keep an eye on her verifies that she's acting inappropriately and it's not just in your head. You shouldn't have to watch her constantly when she's out, you need to be able to trust that she can be out and not be hitting on every guy. I wouldn't stand for that shit, but that's just me.

The way I see it you have two options
1: dump her ass
2: next time you go out with her, flirt with other girls A LOT! Just as much as she is with the other guys, this is what I would've done at the party as soon as I saw her acting up. And make sure she can see you having fun with these other girls, if she cares for you she will change her behavior or talk to you about it.

good luck

Something I read a long while back reminded me of your situation...

"People don't change. You only get to know who they really are better. Perspective changes."

This girl cheated on her boyfriend with you, so why does it make you so shocked and angry that she might cheat on you with some other guy(s). She won't change, because she is not wired to behave in a committed, loving, loyal way. She's a sexually promiscuous girl who wants what she wants. She doesn't believe in integrity or the value of having a relationship. And apparently, you had no problems when she did cheat on her ex with you, so this just becomes a case of you being a bad loser, when it is happening to you now.

The way I see it, there are only two roads to go down from here...

A - You break it off with her. And find a woman who will respect and reciprocate your feelings of love and loyalty in a committed relationship with you.

B - You just change the status quo of your relationship from "committed relationship" to "open relationship/friends with benefits/whatever that suits your needs" and continue having sex with her, but at the same time be open to the fact that she is most definitely having sexual relations with guys other than you.


The choice is yours. If it was up to me, I'd just end something than to compromise on my stance and deal with it.

Good luck.[/b]

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Don Draper you've just hit the nail right on the head and caused me to have an ohh moment. I didn't think of it from this view. Thinking back her best friend is known to be quite promiscuous and also share sexual partners with her other friends. I guess looking at her best friend should've given me a good clue into her behavior. That's why I got so annoyed when she started flirting with my best friend because it's probably exactly what she does with her best friend (share sexual partners).

I'm going to admit I got caught into the trap of thinking she was a princess and thus started dating her. The problem with this is it's quite easy to start dating a hoe if you don't know that much about her. I guess I let my feelings get out of hand because I thought she wanted a relationship when in reality she just wanted me to be her friends with benefits while her boyfriend was in another country.

She ended up splitting up with him but I don't think that was because she wanted to date me. I think she just wanted to be single and live a promiscuous life ...

Anyways I've decided to tell her I don't want to date her anymore and basically said it was from her behavior last night that proved she didn't either. She was okay with it I guess. I just didn't want to have to put up with going out with her if I wasn't going to have a committed relationship but yet still deal with lies and manipulation tactics.

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

Been there before...

Its like..The girl, for some reason, cares so much of what you think...She'll flood you with kisses and hugs, etc. and not have sex with you..

And every guy she meets in between is "just a friend"...and makes you believe she doesn't do things with them, that she does to you..

When in reality, you're just a friend.....and the other guys are her fuck buddies..


She doesn't let you see her kissing them or anything because she doesn't want you to think shes a whore....Most likely because you're the only guy that has really ever thought positive about her...But she's a whore dude..Fuck her friends instead of worrying about her

your falling in to her trap just like every other guy!

Be non reactive to that shit, and just don't care!