Hi,


I would really like a few pointers if you guys would be so kind.

Basically, summary of story, met girl from work, flirted like crazy over text. Had sex the first time we met up (after we'd got to know each other on company week). Had lots of sex everytime we met. (about 5 times). She got cold feet as I didnt build enough comfort. Was supposed to meet this wed, got blown out with a need some space tx. Said she wanted to meet on fri to chat. I countered with let's meet weds, met weds, tried to destroy as much buyers remorse as I could. She said she still wanted some space and I agreed with that, said about my ex i still live with. Agreed to not see/talk/tx for 2 weeks. Then when I got home, I was thinking, I aint goin out like this, so sent her a tx saying how about we delay any "sentence" (made out like we were on trial) until after sat and should go out tmr night together and just have fun. At first, she was like, are you joking, I replied, yeah about it being a sentence but no about going out. She said I was missing the point, I countered with, I get the point completely, i need as much space as you do but I've had a shit week at work, i know you have, I hate hw things have got so serious (implying she's getting too serious) let's forget the stress and have a good time and then leave things on a happy vibe for a bit. She's agreed.

Now my question is, I need to make sure I do not mess this up since, I reckon, if we have a really cool time, I can leave her to go on her break and she'll be thinking about me in a good way rather than after weds which whilst not so serious, had too much of a serious undertone to it, since we both knew we were there to "have a chat".

I'm thinking, there's needs to be a bit of c&f but a lot of comfort building, reinforce attraction. WHat do you guys suggest? Basically, I need to squash any remaining buyers remorse. Also, in terms of what to do, I'm thinking it needs to be fun so going for a drink is cool since that's as much fun as we wanna make it and then maybe go partying afterwards.

What you reckon? I'm thinking, I shdn't try to be overly sexual, more flirty and c&f and also try to get her to open up to me a bit but don't make anything too serious. She said, she doesn't open up to people easily so I def need to work on that but I'm thinking, the main thing is she needs to have fun

(I have another post which explains the whole story but can't add a link just yet)

Shit dude thats a tricky one. you need to try and get inside her head though and work out why she's getting buyers remorse.

do you think its cos you live with your ex? Or did things get boring quickly between you? Does she have some other guys that you don't know about? Seriously try and put yourself inside her head and work out why she is having doubts. Then work out what it would take to cripple said doubts.

whats the latest with this scenario?