Quick breakdown this is a girl in one of my classes that i only talk to before class and walk with towards the parking lot after class about an hb8 but she seems like the innocent type of girl havent really made things sexual and am afraid of being stuck in the friend zone...i know the coversation is corny but this is a big step for me as far as what ive done in the past. i dont have this girls number and unfortunately she just lost her phone according to fb today this convo was yesterday when i was planning on asking for the number but i guess it would have been irrelavant now..i need help on how to number close her maybe next time we have class if she has a new phone by then and trying to add some sexual tension any help would be appreciated

Me:What are you still doing up? isnt it past your bedtime lol

her: lol hey
I know right and I have math in the morning, and what about, u have no bed time? lol

me: me noo im nocturnal lol im usually sleepwalking in class lol you didnt hit the gym did you

her:I DID lol, I was like I better listen to Randall
nocturnal huh lol

me: yea good you wouldnt want to see me angry lol yea you know nightime is when all the cool ppl are out but then again you wouldnt know cuz youd be sleeping
you know u made me want to go lasetagging last time u brought it up i havent been since forever. you got anything planned this weekend?

her:I havent been in FOREVER, I went lasertagin such a long time ago but its soooo much fun. oh yea the cooool people? HA

Me:(she avoided my question)its ok as you get older your bedtime increases and you may catch a glimpse of one haha What are you getting into this weekend? I was trying to go but my one friends who said he was down is starting to fake you should tag along

her:lol ya maybe when I'm a big girl I can stay up later. lol I cant wait. I'm going to New Jersy this weekend. If u ever want to play let me know I would be downnnnnn

me:dont try to intimidate me by saying downnnn like your actually good lol but yea sounds good well im off to bed...i mean hang with my cool people lol goodnight

her:lol your full of it. (: Mr. Downnnnnn good night

hmm,

I'm not pro at this, so don't put all your faith in me.

I think she's GENERALLY interested in you, however you talk to her like you would talk to your sister or cousin. Try to be more assertive, and try to be more daring in your conversations. DO NOT INSULT HER, but yet do not compliment her. Say things like,

"so I like the pants you wore yesterday, I actually think they're getting trendy and I think you look cute in them "

or ask her something intellectual, like "so, my friend and I were having this debate. Free will or determinism?"

Try to get her mind to work, try to get her emotional and give her very slight hints that you're interested in her.

When you talk to her, try initiating body contact, not in a creepy way, put your hand on her shoulder, or if you're sitting next to her, place it on her knee. If she lets you, eventually hold her hand, if she holds it back, squeeze it, or rub her fingers, see if she reacts possibly, if all goes well, then go for it dude she's into you.

hey can I ask how this turned out?

Well, unlimited_crazed, I am going to give you my perspective on this situation that you find yourself in..

First things first, you ARE in the "friend zone". There's no doubt in my mind about it. The conversation when seen from an outsider's perspective seems to be a casual chat between two friends interspersed with awkward teasing and invitation to laser tagging that was haphazard in its deliverance.

You want to get her there, you NEED to sell the idea to her. Like relate it to HIMYM and tell her that she could be the Robin to your Barney and you guys can laser kick some 10 year old asses at the place. Or something like that.

Also, the fact that you consider her "innocent" and you have been "not really sexual at all" with her proved to be your undoing. An innocent girl just requires being more subtle at expressing your desire towards her. That's all. She is also a woman and yes, she also thinks about sex (shocker!). You just need to approach that topic in a way that she can think of it without feeling downright awkward or insulted.

As for asking her number, well, you can just ask her for it. The way I see it, you guys seem "friends" enough that she won't be too worried about giving it to you.

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Agreed man, you're friend zoned definitely.

It sucks being there. If I were you I would distance myself so that you two would somewhat forget about each other, then I'll start over

Don't be too nice to her, but don't be an asshole. Always throw in things that are sexually directed, but be very witty and smart about it. For example, this happened to me last night.

me: "So let me ask you this, what do you do when you're sexually frustrated?"

her: "LOL I would work out?"

me: "Wow that actually works? I thought working out makes you hornier "

It's not rude and creepy, but when I say things like that, I guarantee that I'm not friend zoned. Please be careful with this though, it's so easy to come across as a creep.

Hope this helps.