After a couple of years without a girlfriend, I finally started going back to the bars to try my luck with the opposite sex. Pretty disasterous results, though it's kinda hard to pinpoint exactly what I did wrong.

I dont know what the deal is. Over the course of several weeks, I opened a lot of girls at this one local bar I go to. And I get shut out almost every time. Somehow, the bartender picked up on my lack of experience and ever since then, she has been giving me little tidbits of advice on how to dress, what to say, etc. That's another question I have: how the hell did she see through me? It's not like I walked into the bar asking her for help in talking / relating to women. Maybe it was my body language or something? It certainly doesnt help that I feel awkward as hell walking up to women and talking to them after having not done it in so long. Sometimes I feel like a gawky, horny, desperate teenage virgin in a sea of Justin Timberlakes and Kim Kardasians who are all flirting with each other and are all at ease and comfortable with what they're doing. I feel THAT out of place.

My main question is this: How do I create or recognize an opporotunity to talk to a woman that does not make me feel this awkward?

When you're approaching, have you got the feeling that it's going to be awkward? If yes, work on that.
What I do when I get freezing cold reaction is being as cold as her but not leaving. Takes a lot of confidence but worth the try.
Your main problem I suppose is bad body language and speech. The next time that bartender girl gives you tips. Ask her about your body language. Ask her how you should speak. It might be harsh but it's better to learn than keeping on making the same mistakes.


oh to answer your real question: every girl is an opportunity. Just go for it.

Is the bartender hot??


Do you have any female friends? If so, meet them at the bar, but pregame, so it doesn't seem like you guys actually know eachother lol Like you're meeting for the first time at the bar.... The bartender will see this... Maybe it will open an opportunity to get her in bed..Then all the other girls around will see all of this too..might change things around a little bit....Its just a thought.

Good luck..and always remember that if someone is offering you advice, don't be ashamed or scared to take it! You actually have a pretty good thing going on here, if you ask me....You've got the most popular person at the bar (the bartender) giving your first hand advice and tips...You know, thats a good friend.

Its the way u present yourself man and its the way u feel as well.
If ur a nerdy looking guy of course ull be less confident than a dude who knows what hes doing.
for the past year I doubled up on how many numbers I get, u know why?
I didn't age in a year and become prince charming, I just have way more confidence man.
I dress better wherever I go, Bars, Shopping center, work etc...
I pay no attention to women when im there, and next thing u know I look across the room and a girl is eyeing me out. Im not asking for it (well i am, kinda lol) but confidence goes a long way man believe me.
That bartender seen it right through you cuz they women can tell. Just like dogs can smell fear, women can tell a man with no confidence.
work on that man, walk with your head up high like u can get any girl u want by snapping ur fingers and believe me, it will show.

remember man, Any target u see is a good target, doesn't matter how hot she is, and if she does reject you then she's a fuckin bitch and isn't worth your time.

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