hey,

Recently, I have been facing several issues I have never faced before with women, but there is one in particular that i need advice with.

I met a stunning, intelligent girl at my university a couple of months ago and hit it off with her. She told me that she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to cheat and said that she wouldn't see me any more. Although i really liked her, i understood, and got on with my life. A week ago, she facebook's me telling me that she wants to meet up, but that i must behave and not try anything. I met up with her and really did nothing forward as i wanted to be friends with her. She obviously thought different and didn't know what she wanted, as she changed her mind from "wanting to just be friends" to being a "booty call" to being "a one night stand where we would never talk again afterwards".

We were on the latter, but got interrupted when her bf called her, which obviously didn't feel great. She spoke to him and lied where she was, but once she hung up, she gained a concious and didn't want to do any more than we had already. Before she left, we talked, and i asked her whether she wanted to be with me instead. She said she would think about it and told me that she really liked me, but that she also liked her bf.

Then she left.

I want her and know that the best thing to do is to not text her. However, I hate the fact that i don't know whether she will text me, and i hate the idea of just waiting forever.
I don't know how i feel about the whole situation either and would really appreciate any advice.

I would say let her go. It sounds like she might be playing some kind of head games with you. If she contacts you again and you meet her she will think of you like her little puppy thats going to follow her around. Now ask yourself do wanna be a second rate lap dog for when she becomes sick of her bf. Also if they cheat with you they will cheat on you.
good luck

I been here dude.. except i was the boyfriend that called... you don't live in NY do you? lol..

She's using you for emotional needs, in the end you'll get your heart broken.. She's obviously emotionally unstable, i doubt this is the kind of girl you want. In the end i ditched the girl i was with and sent her on her way and shes been miserable ever since..

Let her go, its best for all 3 of you guys.. Don't further hurt someones relationship just so you can get laid. Where are your morals?

_________________
Email me: EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com For 1 on 1 coaching or consultation via SPAM, phone or IM.

Now You Can Read My Articles Here! ------------> http://wayoftheplayer.com/category/play ... fews-tips/

the only thing i think when i read stories like this is:

slut

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Lance1

I do see your point of view and kind of agree with you. however, if i can make her mine, i'm willing to risk it.

fuze

ive been on the other side of this too before and no im not from NY lol dw. again, i agree with you but im willing to risk it. i have nothing to lose.

Mack 2.0

i sort of agree with you lol, but it is what it is, and i dont think shes a slut, but she did definitely do wrong lol

----------------Update------------------
I was planning on not speaking to her for a while, however, I woke up the next morning with a facebook message from her boyfriend. It basically said that i played a part in ruining his life and that he wanted to know from me what happened. I didn't want to kill any chance i had with her, so i phoned her in the evening and told her that her bf had contacted me.

She was panicking on the phone, saying that she wanted to be with him still but then saying she was confused. (I have to admit, from here on, i was trying to score some points with her for the remainder of the call). I said that she can tell me what to write to her bf on my facebook. it turns out that she told him everything when she went home that night. I said that i would take the bullet for her and lie, by saying that we were friends, got drunk, and that I made the first move (there's not much chance of us meeting so i didn't mind taking the bullet for some points). I asked her whether there was any chance we would be together in the future. She said that she was scared to tell me as i could really ruin their relationship. After telling her that i would do the right thing anyway as that is who i am, she said that if she stayed with her bf then we would never be together, but if they broke up then maybe we would have a chance. I told her that he seemed like the kind of guy that would take her back no matter what she did (to kind of make him look a pussy if he did accept her back). I also said that i would like to remain friends with her as i dont want to lose her and that i would rather have a friendship with her than nothing at all. I think all of this must have worked at least a bit as she said not to tell her bf ( she was still scared i would ruin it for them) but that she does like me and is very impressed at what i had said to her and taking the bullet etc. and that she would definitely consider remaining friends if nothing else.

I did the right thing and took the bullet although he has not replied to me. The last text i got from her that evening (tuesday) was her saying that she thinks my theory about him taking her back was wrong as he hasnt called her. i replied saying that he hasnt replied to my message and probably hasnt seen it. That she will be ok and that il let her know if he replies (which he hasnt).

Right now I'm kind of just waiting. My emotions are driving me crazy, wanting to know what has happened and whether i could be with her, and really just wanting to talk to her. I havnt acted on these emotions however. I was thinking that i should either wait infinitely for her to respond or to wait a week or two and send her an innocent text of hope everything got resolved or something like that.

what do you think i should do?

if you would really consider being with a women like this, i think you should really consider your own values as a person and wether or not you even have the slightest bit of self esteem..

However, you showed her that'd you would be willing to do anything for her, even lie and make up shit which means she will "never" respect you as a man, so a serious relationship or even a friendship with her for that matter is out of the question...

You're really going out on a limb just for some female attention, theres an inner game section on these forums as well.. I think you should give that a shot

Toddles

_________________
Email me: EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com For 1 on 1 coaching or consultation via SPAM, phone or IM.

Now You Can Read My Articles Here! ------------> http://wayoftheplayer.com/category/play ... fews-tips/

Take it from me my dude....If a girl is in a relationship....and cheats on her boyfriend with YOU.....It opens up the door for the possibility of her doing the same to you when you guys start dating....There is a chance that eventually you will be that same boyfriend calling her

ah 3 ways. Theres 2 meanings to these. One is great the other sucks.

Ive been at both ends of the 3 way. Where im the BF getting fucked over, and also where im the other guy.

Firstly if youre the other guy and she chooses you, it will never really last long. Even at the first sign of the relationship getting stale or bad, she will miss her ex and regret leaving him for you because she will realise it was morally wrong to do. He probably wont take her back either.

Otherwise, she will stay with her boyfriend and they wont last long either. Shes already cheating so its a matter of time before is successfully killed forever.

Your best bet. stay away from her for a while. If she does break up with her boyfriend, which will most likely happen within the next couple of months. take things slow and maybe you can form a solid relationship the correct way.

until then, go meet more girls!!!

Thanks for the advice, but tbh, i think ive fucked it anyway! the other day i sent a really stupid text, which she was quite offended by. I apologised the day after, and offered to make it up to her, but got no reply. I dont know for sure, but i think its over. In the mean time another girl is going out with me for dinner soon, so im going to focus on that, try and work out what i have learned from all this and move on. I've probably learnt that i need to work on my composure when I am feeling uncertain above anything.

Anyway i appreciate all the advice, hopefully its for the best that it wont happen.

She is playing games with you.. If you really like her, some gayspeeches how you like her or want to be with her or even ask her to be with you, won`t work.. Instead I would play games with her too. Game her dude. On my opinion she is perfect for gaming and even if it doesn`t work out, it will be an excellent exercise. I had pretty much the same girl, gamed her, and it actually worked. Only that in the end, I was the one who wanted only a one night stand. Bcs honestly, these kinds of girls don`t make good girlfriends. Good luck

_________________
There are no lesbians, just women who never met Sid.

what kind of games?

What kind of games she is playing, or what you should do?
I didn`t understand the question..

_________________
There are no lesbians, just women who never met Sid.

what should i do?

Well, you should game her. Lure her into you, by showing less interest etc.. I think she is a kind of girl, that will chase you if you do it right.. How you will do it, it`s on you, bcs you know her better then the rest of use.. But I would show less interest and play similar games on her like she does on you..

_________________
There are no lesbians, just women who never met Sid.

this will really just get both of you nowhere.

playing games is getting a laser pointer and making the cat chase it around in circles.

This would have similar effect.

Be a man and do what you know you gotta do here, but just dont want to face it.