Hey,

Im thinking of giving a girl i like a valentines day card but would like opinions on whether or not this is an AFC trait or not! Im undecided, in one way I feel it is but on the other hand does it show confidence and may put a smile on her face lol.

If anyone beleives giving a valentines day card is a good idea, advice on how to do it in the best possible way would be a help! Just to add I know this girl very well and we flirt all the time!

What is the girl into?


Get something specific and not too lovey dovey.


i.e. Shes into a certain author/band/sport...something along those lines with a good message.


I have my card to send finalized, its just getting the right message lol

Shes into a few things, mainly music!

Apart from that shes the coolest girl ive ever known! We have a laugh about anything and have so much in common, everyone thinks we're an old married couple even tho we're not an item lol

Thanks 4 ur reply!

A card of her favorite band maybe?

Also try not to think of her too highly man. You're the coolest guy she's ever known

What you guys have to understand is being AFC has nothing to do with your
actions, it has to do with what place your actions were executed from internally. I could give that same girl a valentines day card(the same one you do) and get an extremely positive reaction from it and you could get a " go away creep" negative reaction from it.

The difference is, I'm not doing it because I think its going to make a girl like me.. I tell girls I love them all the time, sometimes in the first 10 minutes of conversation and 9 times out of 10 they tell me that they love me back.. I don't "need" her to love me back so I can feel good about myself, I genuinely just love her..

You guys get it confused like " is this afc, is this alpha blah blah blah" Chances are if your still asking that question, then the place your doing everything from is an AFC place. So the answer to your question is NO, you shouldn't give her a card because you had to ask permission to do so from a forum full of guys that don't know you or this girl.. That my friend is AFC

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Thanks for your response Fuze.

I take on board some of the points you make and am greatful for your input.

I have been very vague as to the girl in question and my own actions around her. I havent detailed these as in all seriousness does anybody want to hear it? I think not. What I will say is that this girl knows im confident and she knows how much I care for her. I dont need to get her to like me, I was thinking about giving her a card to make her smile. I like to see her happy.

The reason im asking the question is to get advice from PUA's that have more experience and ideas in general as to make a positive impact. Since finding this forum and understanding the PUA community I have improved my game alot, have had success but am still learning.

So if yourself or anyone else has any ideas they will be most greatly welcome.

Great advice and very true.

Gotta agree with what Fuze wrote.

But, you can give here the card as long as you are coming from the place that I think Fuze is talking about. don't over-analyze it, and do it because it will be fun FOR YOU and her / your being playful and cute, your random idea you feel like pulling off, whatever. Just NOT in a romantic, "will it work" / whats her reaction going to be kind of way.