Background: I became needy in a relationship that was going nowhere with a girl (10 weeks in). She's a shy virgin that claimed "it takes me months for me to fall in love" and wouldn't let me have her virginity. This ruined my pua programming and I started to really fall for her. She claimed she wanted to have fun (but wouldn't let me f-close her) and she didn't want her feelings to get hurt (but refused to become my girlfriend). Confusing. I jumped the shark and told her I loved her while drunk (7th week mark, I was going away for a week) - she became colder thereafter. After her flaking on me twice I decided to move on. I threw out everything that reminds me of her and deleted her number and texts. I have no way of calling her, and that's good.

Problem: we're both students at a very small campus less than 5,000 students. What should I do if I run into her or walk by her on campus?

ignore her - leaves no options for possibly getting back together with her, possibly reactive and unsociable
acknowledge with small talk and walk away - nicer option but doesn't go anywhere
acknowledge and ask to hang out sometime - leaves open the possibility of reestablishing a relationship on my terms

it would also help to know timeframes and combinations of these. I'm thinking saying hi and keeping things brief if I run into her within a week (typical "I've been busy with stuff"). If it happens 2 weeks from now or longer I'll say I've been busy and ask her for casual coffee to catch up. Any thoughts?

ideally I would freeze her out and if she re-initiated with me that would be fine and dandy. But there's this element of proximity that I have not seen addressed in the pua literature.

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I'm a ninja-fighter.

I'd choose option 2. You can be friendly but leave it at that.

Option two, while I was in high school (quite recently actually, just a year ago) I had and still have two older friends. They told me that even if it doesn't work out with a girl or I got rejected, I still had to come across as a cool, "nice" and overall fun guy.

Why?
Because, then she would remember me as an awesome guy that wasn't one of those guys that got upset or started hating a girl things didn't work out with.

In the long run I would possibly have a better chance with her AND any single friends she may have.

Because, let's face it, girls talk, we all know that. If word get's around that you're an awesome guy and one of her friends is interested in you, then she can give you a vote of confidence, which is always useful.

Anyways, just my two cents, hope it helps.

Just say hi and keep walking.

We cannot tell you what to do since that is up to you. You wanna get over her, you gotta show yourself that you can see her without getting upset. Avoiding her only acknowledges that she means a lot to you and trying to reestablish a relationship too...

So try to see her as someone from your past that no longer hold any power over you.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Be friendly and playful; use the push/pull method. Just keep in mind you want nothing to do with the girl, but it doesn't hurt to play with her. Just make sure you don't fall for her again. Have fun, show her you're better than her through your routines.

That is not very good advice.

If he wants to get over her, why would he ever want to play with her. It is just not nice and also a bad strategy.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I don't see any reason to ignore as a way to get over here. That's just AFC method and a very bad way to get over a girl... I usually get over a girl by exploring into the field with other girls and talk to my ex. Catch up and DHV I've been doing way better from how she left me. My thoughts are just show the girl that destroyed you, that you're thankful she let you go. No shame in talking to your rejections.

If you read my earlier post in this thread I advice him to talk to her but neighter avoid her nor game her.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I was thinking option 2. Be friendly and polite with small talk.

Personally, if I were to run into the girl who broke my heart again, I would just talk to her and see how she's been doing. I would have no interest in going out with her again, so I'd still just chat and be friendly. It's good to be on good terms with people, if possible. If not, don't sweat it. The girl isn't worth getting upset over anyway.

In my opinion, you did the right thing to delete all her info, and any means to contact her. Keep ignoring her is the best way to get over her.

Also, I think one should never go back with a girl from the past (unless she was a f-buddy).

I agree with Ezo: just ignore her most of the time, and if you really actually bump into her, act friendly but distant, don't game her nor tell her you deleted everything which may remind you of her.

The best advice is just to get another girl, any other girl, but just get one, to get over that one!