So as most of you on here that may know me know, I am a 19 year old virgin. When I was a kid my family moved around so much that I never had any stability at all, at the age of 13 we settled down in a small deep south city.

I didn't live your typical life in the suburbs. I went to a high school in the inner city where most girls were a scare to even look at (and my standards are much lower than that of my friends) and the ones who were decent were either gang members, had friends you did not want to hang near (those who would single you out if you were different). To make matters even worse my parents had a STRONG EYE on me, what I find funny is our family makes six figures but my parents sent me to a really bad high school. Thankfully now I have manned up and they have backed off, I take responsibility for my mistakes as well. In high school some girls did hit on me but I decided not to pursue, I have not put myself out there enough but I am starting to do that more and more. And I am not mr six packs (I am 5"11 and weight 173 lbs, I got myself measured to get an accurate height).


Now some stuff I hear about late age virgins is pretty scare. I have heard TONS of people say they find that one lucky girl and due to being deprived for so long they end up marrying that one girl and that is about it. I have also heard

1. If they want to be players, it is unrealistic.
2. Their lack of experience will eat them alive when it comes to gaming women.
3. They have missed out on so much highs of relationships that relationships at later ages will be pretty boring and they will have to PAY a lot for sex.
4. Such guys are probably ugly at a younger age and will probably have to rely on money in order to get sex.

Now, in real life, have you known guys who were virgins at late ages (18 and up) that managed to make it big in the dating world? (dated and slept with lots of women at a later age)

How tough does it get?[/u]

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

If that can reassure you, being a virgin at nineteen is nothing bad.

He told me the way he got out of "being afraid" of being a virgin was to start PUA and make up his own story/lie that he would tell girls. He'd make them understand that he was a player (though that was not true before starting PUA, and even then, he would only K-close) and that he had several girls before. He told me he remembered all the girls he had a crush on and would invent a story around it saying how awesome it was went he was dating her (although he never actually did).

Even thought it was big lie, it made him feel more confident.

The funny part of the story is that after several K-closes in random spots, he fell on a girl he really liked. Turned out she was virgin, but he went on with his story that he wasn't. They stayed together for a good year and about six months in, that girl actually told her that "[she] was happy that he wasn't a virgin when she lost her virginity because she felt like it would have probably sucked otherwise". Even her was convinced he wasn't a virgin!

So, invent your story, believe in your lie, if that's a way to make you confident enough to forget about the fact that you're a virgin.

And by the way, the good friend of mine to who that happened was twenty-two at the time!

I lost my viriginity when I was 22! Im 25 at the moment.

Could ve lost my virginity much sooner, but because of my high standarts , I was always looking for some one not only physical,I dated with some girls, and I was the one to miss out sex. At that time I gave sex too much importance and yes I had a strict education. Like sex was bonding with someone for life lolol.

Asnwering your 1 and 2 question, Im no player , but I fairly confident on my skills to hook up some girls and happens from time to time, Im often the one who pass the opportunities. But hey some girls dont fall for my good looks and my style and even my charm ... oh well cant get all of them, and its not my objective also

3- Yes it can fuck your head, when you hold your virginity, and then you “think” you found miss perfect, and she fucked 50 guys… and you go hum. You probably be needy and insecure and your first relantionship, because you lack the experience and this fucked my head a bit. But Ive learn from my mistakes pretty well. But hey Ive seen guys who dated 50 girls and still make the same mistakes. So I wouldn’t say its because you lost your virginity later

4- Yeah true story,since I was 15 people telling me I should be a model and stuff like that. When I was young, had girls who I didn’t even knew exist message me for dates… and all the girls on my classroom wanted to dated me.

But yes I still have one itis for the girl who took my virginity, but what true is for me maybe is not true for someone else.

Alot of the know Puas, only discover how to be good with women, for the need to leave the virgin territory!

I lost my virginity at age 19 (almost 20!!).
the first girl who i kissed is the first girl i slept with also, she wasn't too good looking and she ended up being my gf for like 5 monthes or so.
since then i have been with 5 more girls,3 of them are girlfriends for short periods of time and 1 one night stand and the last one is the girl im in touch now.
i am almost 22 now, after my first gf there have been a while where i did not had any physical with any girl (about a year or so), in that year i became more aware of myself, i started to get intrested in clothes (adn i have a rather good taste in clothes now), i joined the gym and now i am a lot bettter looking, a few kilos less and has decent amount of muslces and my posture improved (by doing back muscles excersizes and being aware to my posture all day long and now i stand straight which makes my belly look a lot flatter) this comes from a guy who _never_ did any sports at all before, i also read "The Game" by Neil Strauss which made me more aware about how to act around girls.
due to the looks i adapted to myself i became more confident (+the fake it till you make it principle).

being a late virgin does hurt your self esteem but once you decide to make a change and you go with it and after that first "contact" it will become more natural to you and you will be a lot less stressed about getting sex.

all i can say is that it's all in your hands and i think that it's not late for you

inspiring stories guys, congrats to you all but I want to ask, is being a player a bit out of reach for a late age virgin?

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

A guy I know didn't lose his virginity til he was 23 and now at 30 he's laid more girls than he could count and his current girlfriend is fucking stunning. Certainly not impossible, but it's probably going to be harder than for someone with more experience from a younger age.

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La Dolce Vita.

I lost my virginity last night, I'm 19 - three and a half months from turning 20.

After becoming a member of the community I was browsing around and reading up on everything I saw - mainly inner game and being alpha. I've always been that guy in my group of friends that wasn't really a hit with the ladies and I contented myself with that until recently. I got sick of being a virgin and feeling the need to lie whenever the topic came up.

I saw a girl I wanted, decided to go for it, and I fucked her last night and will continue fucking her because apparently I'm a good size and she loves the things I do to her.

I don't know where you got this "late age virgin" stuff from but it's best to just ignore it!

I lost my virginity at 19 going on 20 and spent the next 4 years in a relationship with her, mainly through lack of any better options.

By 23 I had only slept with 1 woman, and by 25 I had only increased that to 3.

Now, at 26, I have had a long series of multiple long term relationships with some of the most beautiful women, I haven't gone a week without sex in over a year, women in different countries fly out to spend weekends with me, and men travel from across the world to pay me to teach them.

DO NOT let anyone tell you that your age means anything. The only thing standing in your way is YOURSELF. If you go out and work on your game, beleive in yourself and keep approaching and learning, you will improve and you will get laid. I guarantee it.

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I would definatly say it is not out of reach.

hey, nice to find someone who lives in my country! (im writing in english so that the other users understand). Dude, I read your reply and the story you tell is kinda similar to mine. I'm a 19 year old virgin but I've always had people telling me how good looking I am and I've always had girls chasing me, but due to my stupid high standards I ended up rejecting most of them (it's the old story: the ones I like, dont like me; the ones i dont like, like me). I'm also quite introvert so that's a point against me. I'm making an effort to change and to approach girls but I'm really afraid to let people know that I'm a virgin cause it's so unusual in my age...

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do any of these questions/threads you are making have anything to do with anything?, it seems you are just trying to drum up reasons why you can't succeed, as apposed to putting yourself into action and actually attempting to get success.. no one number close at party every 2-3 months is not putting yourself into action, go out EVERY DAMN DAY, if you want to no longer be a virgin and you see that as a problem, GO FIX THE DAMN PROBLEM, if you want to be a player, GO PUT THE DAMN EFFORT INTO BEING A PLAYER, this shit isn't just handed to you on a silver platter, and being a virgin until your 80 would simply be your own choice, and has nothing to do with your success, the only thing holding you back, is your own inability to believe in your self and take action, coupled with your unrealistic expectations

it is like, want to date a super model but am not a supermodel,
want to have girls throw themselves at me, when I do not throw myself at them,
want girls to think highly of me, when I think lowly of me
it is not my fault though that I am not having success, because I dont try, listen why, I don't try because of blah blah blah etc. etc., I also don't want to try because I could fail because of blah blah blah, and that blah blah isn't my fault, you see I one time tried, and I got rejected, so now I will never try because it is not my fault, and this vicious cycle continues, even though I probably know deep down I have to put in effort and time and get rejected and keep approaching alot, to see any sort of success, anyways

can anyone fix my problem quickly? or at least tell me a way that I don't have to put my ego on the line and put effort in?, if not at least just tell me I am incappable and it is not my fault... OH why are you guys dis-agreeing... but it is not my fault it is them not me, I don't have to change or take action!!,

get off your ass, go out, talk to multiple new girls a day, try to have sex with them, DOING THE BARE MINIMUM TO NOTHING HAS NEVER GOTTEN ANYONE HIGH LEVELS OF SUCCESS... YOU WANT TO BE A DOOER? GO OUT AND DO, THAT IS COOL

YOU WANT TO BE AN I CANT DO IT? , THEN STAY HOME AND YOU CAN'T DO IT

good luck, I have seen homeless people that are twice as ugly as you with mental conditions, fuck girls in the backs of alleyways, it was fucking disgusting, but if they can do it anyone can do it, now stop holding sex up so high on a pedastool, you don't have to fuck models and 10s to feel sexually satisfied and the only way to get better is experience, crying and not doing anything won't accomplish anything, it is tough but toughen the fuck up and do it, stop being a boy, and be a man LIFE IS HARD, KICK IT'S ASS UNTIL IT IS EASY

actually did make some progress earlier tonight but hey you already have a negative perception of me, no point in changing it

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

I lost my virginity at the age of 20 years old with a girl in my friendship group, she was also my first kiss. I'm also a relatively handsome guy, I just had no confidence or self-belief and I could never escalate.

I'm now 22 years old and I have slept with 10 women of admittedly varying quality. I started going out regularly with friends and drinking and dancing. I ended up getting quite a few one night stands and discovered that I was a sociable, fun person underneath my introverted exterior. Eventually I discovered Game and began to iron out a lot of problems I had and now I have had many dates and I feel like I pick and choose who I want to be with rather than desperately latching on to anyone that showed me attention.

I'm currently in a "kind of relationship" with a beautiful American/Scandinavian girl and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. A lot of the PUA stuff came really naturally to me, I can easily attract a woman without even thinking about it, it just took Pick Up to really break through my shyness and unlock my dormant abilities.

I am by no means great, and I would class myself as a rAFC because I still fuck up plenty and don't get countless lays and girlfriends.