I've been seeing this girl for about a month and a half. We have both agreed to just keep it as friends but we have both also hinted strongly at it being a FWB thing. Everytime we hang out there is no problem getting the topic sexual. The problem is that everytime we start making out, or I begin to finger her, or she begins to give me a handjob, it ends there. She always dictates where the things end, she always says, "that's it for now", leaving me wanting more. She says that she always likes to tease but we have never been able to go all the way because of that. I think it's a bit of a push/pull thing she is trying to do. So my question is how do I take control from her and dictate how and when the sexual times will go and end?

i would just turn it around onto her, leave her wanting more, for example if you making out or your fingering her, just say 'thats enough' and pull away or dont even say anything, she'll be left wanting more, do this a couple of times, i hope it works for you my friend.

the problem is often times we take what we can get.

we would like to have sex, but handjob still feels good.

next time you see her just say i want to sleep with you tonight. if she doesn't want to just walk away.

also when youre making out and stuff use that to arouse her and shell give in

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I totally agree with what you guys are saying, and I'm gonna try it next time. If that doesn't work I guess I'll just move on, no point wasting my time like that. Even though I feel like I've put enough effort in where I feel I deserve to get some reward.