Is that a safe territory to chart into, how you should play the game here.
My experience have been that you are into a role playing situation here, moment they sense that you are also trying to get her, they immediately go into defense mode.

What is the way in this situation to get her ?
And in case you just follow her as she says, what can be the harm of such relations ? I have felt such relations associated with a lack of control where you slowly lose confidence, if you don't know whats happening.

A girl is using you for sex? What is wrong with you? That is perfect. You can go out and find other women.

This girl I fuck all the time, never wants to hang out. Hits me up at 2 in the morning on weekends to fuck. Not gonna complain about that.

The harm in this kind of relationship comes when guys get emotionally attached to someone who is only interested in a ""physical adventure" (sex only).

Most guys get involved with this kind of women without hesitation. Then, they find themselves being too attracted to her to just take things lightly. They start demanding attention from her, which in turn drives her away (she doesn't want a relationship). The more these women turn away, the more the guys get obsessed. At that point is just pitiful.

Make sure that if you're going to be with someone just for sex:
a) You are fucking other women. Not just willing to have sex with other girls, but actually DOING IT at the same time. If your only option is your friends with benefits, beware.

b) You cannot see yourself emotionally attached to that person.

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listen to ban i fell into that trap when i was younger.. and got attached to the pussy pretty easily.. even tough i knew it was just a booty call thing, i wanted more.. lets just say things didn't work out to well.

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You are the man here, don't turn into a pussy and start talking about your feelings whatever you do, just play it out and play it cool for as long as you can and she will either want to progress things to the next level or she will move on.

Either way, she is clearly in control here not you, so the worse thing you can do is get all clingy now and play out a traditionally female role, she will lose interest and want to get her freak on elsewhere.

If you want her to come around to the idea of you guys dating quicker, then 'subtely' let her know you've got other girls interested in you, even if you have to get a mate of yours to text you when you're out with her.

'Man this girl just wont take a hint' etc.

Show her she should be trying to tie you down.

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The advice for this situation is sound.

Try to feel nothing. Or if you do feel anything feel free to toy with it. Just don't indulge in it. Be flirty with other girls. Be aware of who is looking at you and look back. If she is around that is cool because you just fuck. The sex is like a dance once its over you can dance with another women.

This girl asked me if I had a girlfriend when I was hanging out with a fuck buddy at the bowling ally. I told her wile she was there. "No I don't have a girl friend."

The fact is your in the perfect position to feel free to act as indecent as you would like. That is not the point just a fact. You can put out any vibe you want. Your a man, act as if your the one. She will just be more attracted to you.

Feelings are like the weather they come and go. Can you ignore how you feel around her. The answer is yes, women do it to us all the time. And if you do feel something and want to share it with her the perfect expression of that can be sex. You can fuck how you want to fuck or make love if you wish. Ether way when your done hold your head up and be proud even if you are alone. In the end it will make her more attracted to you.

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I think this stage comes after you have initiated physical, or have good rapport and comfort else I am not sure we can do much without her permission since she is in almost total control, or can we ?
I think this is a more indirect way to proceed and initiate physical.

Which of the above 2 is valid technique or at what stage they are valid.

I have comes across girls who are quite moody or snappy and its dependent on their moods. Some of them want you to take up lead but then throw up LMR, what's the way to deal with it.

This is spot on. You never want to get to a point where your booty call is the only woman you're fucking.

So if I was in this situation that you just laid out..

Question? What do I beware?

Honestly Very little emotion but some still lingers because of the fact I moved backwards into it. In other words we were a couple now we just fuck. I feel like I have a idea of what your going to say I just can not verbalize it...

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@ amatpua for my situation that I was in I was talking about a fuck buddy and we have already established the report (non verbal or verbal communication) when we are out or around our friends that I can do whatever I want.

I was coming across a bit cocky, wasint I? I was just trying to give you the feel of the vibe that I had in my particular situation. I would not say that everyone wants to have a vibe of "we just fuck who cares." Its not a bad feeling. kind of overpowering most of the time because I am 10 years older. I would say the situation is easy, so its unique. I would not approve of everyman treating women like they do not matter. Because, that is not the case for every women. At least in my mind. [/quote]

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The trend of more likely ONS...

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I was fucking an ex a couple years ago. The problem that developed was that I was just fucking her, not other girls. If I'd been fucking other girls, things would've been fine, but since it was just her feelings developed and it turned into a mess.

So I should avoid her altogether. Then I am in a situation where I may run dry for a time. I hate that, I think most guys do. I am also scared of giving off a desperate vibe. We all know what that is.

Its when you get in the mindset that your not going to get some.

By having a FB I can easly get off and go on with the day. On the other hand by having a FB sometimes I grab a emotion like I should be nicer or whatever... But I do let that go because I know it is not fact.

I am not saying that it is a easy process. I have to have some sort of a frame to be able to handle this. For the record though she is not that great of a girl. She will be replaced as soon as possible.

One thing I can speak for; for my own sake, The possibilities of hooking up with another better girl is totally a possibility. I got the balls today to go in for a kiss close after a number close. After I have met this girl for only 30 min.

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I think I have already got the best advice for this situation reading some of the other threads..

"A problem can't be solved at the same mental level at which it was created"

I have run into mental block,, though this girl is interested, but I cant wait for eternity for her to take action, so I am off to search for greener pastures, to create a better mental level first.

Hey amatpua, I was starting to change the whole thread that you started. My bad for that. I just have to start more of my own. lol

I think that instead of can't look at all times for what you can.

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