Dear PUA players,

Last night I was in a club and kissed a girl, the kissing/conversations last for about 15 minutes.
I got her number and asked if she would come fuck at my place. She said she wasn't that easy. I responded with: "I know the society doens't accept one night stands, but I think you should just do what you like. I know it is not easy for a girl, men have is a lot easier." She aggreed halfway.

With the future in mind I said bye and left the club after some saliva exchange. I thought that if I stayed till the end of the night all the sexual tension would go down and that I was less likely to bang her in the future.

When I was at home I sended her a message that it was nice to talk to her that evening and "talk to you soon". The next morning I saw that she had blocked me.

I don't know why, we had a good time (she was laughing the whole time and we had fun), maybe we need more time?
Maybe I was to direct (talked about a meeting, if we find each other attrective we would fuck, otherwise it would be our little secret).

She is in her first year of college, just like me.
Any advice??

Yours sincerely,

Dzifa

Possbly blocked your number because you abruptly asked her to come back and fuck you. Therefore she thinks 'this guy thinks im some easy slut' It doesnt matter what your reply is you shot yourself in the foot by asking her to fuck after 10 minutes of convo. This may work if you look like brad pitt but if you looked like him i doubt you would be on a PUA forum.

You should have played it cool kiss close number exchange 'yeah well im leaving in 20 minutes, if you fancy you should come back for a few drinks or something'

Unlucky but fair play for being bold.

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Bingo.

Thanks for the advice. I understand what you guys say: I understand that you may sound like a jerk, but how would you ask a girl for a one night stand in another way?
You can say:"let's grab a drink at my place after the party" But I don't know, this sounds a bit lame in my opinion. She knows what is going to happen and therefor it sounds weak in my eye's. But, if it is this way how to do it, than I will use it everytime (sasha daygame)

Also I learned of pick-up that escalation isn't bad at all. Maybe I went to far, but escalation is attractive (Sixty Years of Challenge). If you went to far you can easily go back. That was what I did.

That was just a quick example of how to get her back... easiest way is find a topic to pick for example something use both have in common and you can show her... me personally im local to my house and the taxi que is always massive so i just say 'hey im not waiting in this que you can call a taxi from mine' therefore shes back in my house isolated and the rest is normally history.

Girls no whats going to happen even if it was to come back for a drink the trick is to not say it like you did... actions speak louder than words ! lol

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Is this for real? You asked a girl to come over and fuck? Pluasible deniability + anti slut defense man ... come up with an excuse, ANY excuse, to go back to your place that isn't this. This is by far the WORST way to get a girl to your place... literally, just about ANY other excuse (as dumb as, want to check out the cool new desk chair I bought) works better.

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There is a big difference between first time and follow ups. You can tell a girl you want to take her home and fuck her brains out, provided you've already slept with her. But beforehand, it's not a good idea.

She actually doesn't know sex is going to happen. Yes, it's a possibility, but most guys she goes home with, fail to get her turned on enough and she doesn't have sex with them. So in her mind, going home with you probably won't lead to sex.

If you're asking how to communicate to her you don't want to be her boyfriend, frankly most girls are perfectly aware that this is not a relationship. And getting into a discussion is not how sex happens. When a girl isn't horny, she often doesn't want to have sex with you on a logical level, because she has a bunch of other logical things stacked against sex. But once she is horny, things change. And no, you can't get her horny and then have a DTR talk while rubbing her clit.

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@Stenic1 nice taxi move

@TheFury I get your point. A normal guy wouldn't ask something like that. If I didn't study PUA, I would also never ask that. It is good to be aware of it.

@Versalis Your are right, I will remember that.


So in short: If you want to go for the one night stand, use a excuse to invite her to your place.

I am wondering now, if you have the feeling that she doesn't want a one night stand. Is it better to ask anyway, because in her subconscious she must think of us together.
Or don't talk about it, just set up a date through text, because you can't talk that well in a club.

Yes, she knows that she isn't coming over for drinks, but what it does is gives her plausible deniability. She can reason with herself "well it's only drinks, I'll say no if he wants sex, so it's ok, he seems cool" etc. If you same , come lets fuck" there's no way for her to rationalize going with you. You have to giver her an out.

Also, you shouldn't ask that after 15 minutes. It's rare to get a yes. Mostly girls will just pick up desperation or a creepy vibe. Also, some girls just will not leave the club until it closes. Around here, everything closes at 2AM. I can fuck up a sure thing if I push hard for a girl to come back to my place at 1.

Sounds familiar to me, I will use this one also.

Thanks guys, you are great!

You are a man, therefore you think from a logical perspective.

Since we are dealing with women who are emotionally based, it is a requirement to behave in a completely different manner as the posters above have talked about.

You never have to worry if she wants it or not if you use an excuse...that's part of the benefit! You didn't ask her to hook up, you asked her to come up and see your desk chair or whatever. From there, you have much better opportunities to seduce (though normally, if she comes up, she is interested in at least fooling around)

And what crazy PUA shit tells you to ask a girl you just met to come over and fuck just so I can be sure never to recommend this persons products? That is quite possibly the worst advice ever. It's one of those things that if it works, anything would work, and there are a million situations where an excuse would work and this wouldn't work.

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Exactly what fury said the chick was into you and you shot yourself in the foot by being so brutal next time dont do it that way be more subtle all the best bro

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