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just scroll down and read kasabi's reply....(or not ..
im have some issue with the same person... ( woman 40 years old very succesfull blablabla)
after a long time of no contact .. i didn't contact her for like 2 or 3 weeks ... first i solved my inner game issue .. taking responsibility for my experience and our interaction in general... accepting her for who she is and stop projecting my ideals on her.
i sent her a text message thanking her for her conversations because i learned alot from it... instantly she was all over me .. like texting me and inviting me to call her. all text messages ended with ''kiss'' x x and that kind of shit.
anyway i just gone on with my life and one day i just thought about how she's doing... called her and we started talking again ( over internet.. long distance ). I stopped running my passive aggresive games on her... not judging the interactions. it's funny ...
because when i stopped my game... just to talk like human to human she suddenly started open up about her emotions.. talking about her youth ( very cliche and boring i must say lol , but i respect it ) for the first time... just a temperate conversation... she was flirting alot and she was constantly qualifying.
it ended with her text messaging about me visting her place...she goes on a indirect all sexual on me...i wasn't pulling off my hardcore game or passive aggresive shit.. telling me she will pick me up and blablabla...
BUt she promised such thing like 15 fucking times last few weeks.. and she keeps flaking... she never returns my text messages. Meanwhile she does talk to me about her banging other dudes and hooking up with guys like in 1 day.... I don't mind about her sex life - i would fuck other woman as well who cares... but if im a friend then she really hurted my feelings... i mean i talk to her for weeks she promises to hang out but she constantly flakes .. and she meets fucking total strangers in like a few hours at her place..
you see where im going ?
il go like all friend on her and she keeps being fucking sexual ... and at the same time flaking as fuck.
just like kasabi wrote... if you want a friend get a friend .. if you want to fuck just fuck.. but she just keeps running these fucking games on me. i know her for like 3 months now, she keeps making promises about meeting and other shit but she never acts like it.
i stopped sending off mixed messages ( sexual etc) and game... but she just keeps doing it... and at the same time she keeps qualifying and investing telling me she likes me and telling me all this personal stuff... If i don't speak to her for a week and i just sent her a text message asking '' how she's doing'' she doesn't respond...from a game perspective she ignores because she want me to call her blabla...
so i grow fuck tired of her games and sent her a text message... i quote ''
hey lady ... you told me alot of times we are going to hang out again .. last time you said we are going to meet for sure and you told me i knew it as well'' well you seem to know more than me.. i know you for 3 months , we talked for weeks and we never really chill out together...to me it seems our interactions are going nowhere.
you tell me about banging guys and meeting other guys in like a few days or in a few hours (
note : we tell eachother about our dates and shit.. she always tell me my dates are or tries to disqualify my dates, trying to make me jealous - and at the same time qualifying herself to me ) .. i fucking know you for 3 months and you keep flaking on me.. i don't feel valued as a friend.. you make such a big fucking point about hanging out together that i isn't relaxed anymore - im losing interest in you as a contact / friend... because of this conversation starting to getting me bored .. i got important things to do .. i cannot talk to you when it's getting nowhere regarding friendship or dating... cya.
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if im a friend then she needs to respect our friendship and not go on sexual on me.. if she goes sexual .. if she wants sex then she needs to stop fucking playing games with me and just call it out... when i act like im just friend stopping my old passive aggressive shit she just goes all sexual on me...previously when i go all sexual on her she just complies - flakes like fuck and comes back to me playing games again.
i really really like this woman... i never really liked any of my girlfriends , im really interested in her but last few conversation im just was getting tired of her fucking games... i got shit in my life going and i cannot waste time into useless interactions with people who constantly are trying to push my buttons and boundaries.
after sending this text message i admit that im not happy with my life in general...alot of shit happened to me last ffew years.. my phyisical health.. psychological health.. financial health... me sending this text message to her is just how im not happy with my dating life at all... i meet all these emotionally and damaged woman.. who constantly play games and shit.
it just feels like there isn't a good woman out there .. this woman i liked alot - really - i didn't feel like being straight and ruining our interactions... i felt like 100% keeping her into my life but i just know it doesn't work out.. i still am thinking about her but im so tired of all this bullshit i don't even want to meet her .. what is left is just this needy version of me clinging the the only woman i really have liked in my life... ( from the hundreds i have met ).
it makes it extra hard because last time she sent me like 4 messages how we are going to hookup...and chill out together....lately she was more serious , emotional and honest...makes it a little bit harder...
at first i met this woman who was fun.. exciting .. had alot of things in her life going for her... only to find out she actually had a boring past, playing all these fucking games on me trying to make me insecure... im actually disgusted... i think it's very immature... it's ok to shit test me 99 times .. but there is a difference between shit testing me 99 times and 99999 times...i can't even fucking relax.. i can't even take a fucking breath. .. im constantly :
1. being indifferent because of these fucking shit tests
2. getting tired of being indifferent because i want to connect to people
3. telling her to shut the fuck up and stopping her ridicilious carnaval of testing and complaint..
she told me how interesting i am blablabla... yeah i fucking know how interesting i am because i work my ass off to live life to the fullest.
i don't know what she fucking expects.. i was like ok i fucking accept her for who she is and i stop playing games.... she puts the bar too high .. i don't have a fucking lab , i don't own 20 companies .. i don't fucking ride my dodge viper on to her porch with my 2000 $ fondue set breakdancing onto her fucking patio....
im just a fucking human.... im not saying im a great guy but i do have a great personality ( i think this - even tho i feel like shit occasionally lol ... and most people tell me this as well )... i don't know what it is but there are alot of emotionally unhealthy fucked up woman and alot of woman who are looking for a jezus who can split the red sea... fucking incompatible woman..
fuck this shit ... im just going to date 18 year old woman who insecure , i just accept them for who they are even tho it's boring to pick them up.. i don't care about high status woman and that kind of shit anymore.... jsut fuck alot of woman and hook up with the right ones..
any thoughts or inner game issues .. just point them out...im human
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