Imagine a catchy but annoying song stuck in your head. Sucks doesn't it? Now replace that catchy but annoying song with a girl who's smart, hot, AND nice! I know right? Fucking nightmare! I met such a girl, talked to her a few times, and can't stop thinking about her! I keep fantasizing about her nonstop and it's driving me nuts. This might have something to do with the fact that I recently decided to wank once a week instead of daily, but still! I can't focus in class. I can't focus while studying. I even have trouble falling asleep. If she knew how much I was thinking about her, she'd fucking laugh. I see one-itis all over this forum. I don't wanna fall into that same trap. I need this tumour removed before it evolves into cancer and ruins me. What the fuck is going on...gimme a cure guys so I can pass my midterms!

Pocket I hope you know many guys are like that not only you. The way to get rid of this is simply to go and meet other woman. Once you meet another woman the importance of this woman your thinking about now will decrease by 50% because both these woman will have to share your brain capacity. Then meet another 2 woman this time it's probably going to be that each takes 25% of your brain capacity. The brain thinks about things that are most important to you. It seems like this girl is the most important part of your life now. So in short if you wanna forget about her find things that are more important. Just to illustrate this I will give you an example think about this: You just got kidnapped and the kidnappers are asking a ransom for you. What will you think about at those moment? About this girl? I don't think so! You will be thinking about the most important things, that is getting out and being safe. So just find important things and you will forget about this girl.

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Believe me I've been going out and meeting new people. I haven't met a girl of the same "caliber" as this one though. That might be the problem. I think I need to find a girl that's equally awesome. Oh man this is a shitty situation. But I really like what you said about finding something more important to worry about. Passing my midterms so I can not have shitty grades and be able to find a job and not be poor after I graduate is pretty important. I always knew about that in the back of my mind but reading your reply brought it forward. Thanks.

No problem. If you have anything else to ask feel free to ask.

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I saw her today. And I sat down and talked to her for less than a minute before she left with her cockblock of a friend. She looked like she was in a hurry. I couldn't tell if that was actually the case or if I did something to turn her off. I was probably sub-communicating being needy in some way I was not aware of. Probably leaned forward too much, etc.

Came home feeling like shit. Well, for a bit anyways. Good thing I have some hobbies that aren't lame and depressing. So I took out my guitar and played some random riffs to try to get my mind off it. Then I realized something. I lost my alpha frame. I didn't approach her with the mentality that I was the prize. She was definitely attracted before. I somehow killed it by being too needy and also being too afraid to touch that other time I talked to her when the cockblock was away and I was standing a feet away from her. What's the best way to recover from this? A freeze out or hitting on another girl in class won't work if she doesn't give a shit about me. I know this is asking for one-itis advice, something frowned upon in this forum. But I see her many times a week in class. Sitting in class and staring at her knowing I fucked up...hurts.

Then I realized something else. A bitter reality check. This girl, who I dreamed about and lost sleep over (believe me I know how ridiculous this sounds =p) probably doesn't give a flying fuck about me. Then why should I give a flying fuck about her? It makes me angry how much I think about her. I want to stop. I know it's logical to stop. I even replied in another thread that the best way to deal with a shitty day is to move on and look forward to tomorrow. But...I...just...can't. Part of me wants to do something stupid to deliberately get shot down so I don't have to think about or talk to her again, cause of all the pain I'm putting myself through thinking of her. The other part of me is telling me to keep my head up and keep on trying until I get shot down.

You're telling me to go out and meet other women. I've done that. Like I said before, I just haven't met a girl of the same "caliber". A 9 is going to take up a much larger portion of my brain capacity than a 6 or 7. I gotta study all weekend anyways since I've done no studying this week, so I probably won't be meeting many women. I'm kind of hoping you have some secret mind trick that's gonna help me get through this.

In a sense I understand where you are coming from, but it looks to me like you're not really acting on your emotions. Sure you may think about her all day but instead of trying to fantasize about you and her you should act on it.

Approach her, talk to her, and treat her like any other girl. Even if you get shot down it will be much easier to move on than it is now.

lol i have this alll the time since i met one particular woman hahaha.... yeah it's fucking anoying but truth be told..

if you really like someone and you have like 100 reasons to be with them, it's completely normal to feel this way.... you are just attracted lol.

on the other hand it shouldn't be killing your focus or inner game... you have to act and do something aobut your inner game.

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