I am a college sophomore here. Recently that I came across a youtube video by a dating coach, and he mentioned that a girl wouldn't date you unless you are on a higher level than she is, not by looks, but by everything. Now I am just in college and I am improving myself in every possible way. Does it still mean I can have a girlfriend who is not necessarily smart but is doing well in all her classes and I am doing ok in mine? I am not a slacker but I am a guy who gets average grades. Please remove my confusion here. I thought girls don't care about a guys intelligence, its the alpha status, or a good personality counts more.

lol so retarded

Gender roles are crucial in a relationship. In most cases, women want you to play the male gender role. Women will want you to be higher than them. They will regularly test you to see if you're still maintaining your gender role as a man. Once you fail the dominance tests like over compliance to their wishes, you'll get a broken heart.

There are alpha females though who want submissive men. They want guys that they can dominate. You'll often see this in married couples where the woman is shouting instructions and insults on her pussy whipped husband. Don't read this wrong. Both are unhappy with the gender role reversal. It's just that the man failed to manage the relationship well.

There are natural alpha females too who are career oriented and are very competitive. They want submissive men.

In a university set up, it's your choice to select the best woman for you and manage that relationship well as a man. This is to keep the balance in your gender roles, keep the relationship stable, and ensure that both of you are happy.

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What kind of tests are those? Any examples? Also, are they testing us consciously or unconsciously?

Do these people not help you enough? I could have sworn that you just avoid the truth and look for a shortcut...

shit tests

-reaction seeking
-qualification
-compliance

your biggest issue right now is not talking to girls, approaching 0 girls = 0girlfriends/0girlfriends,

you get into relationships by having sex with girls, and continueing to do so, eventually as a bi-product they ask you out to risk losing you to some other girl or what ever

you are looking for a wealth of knowledge that won't help you until you take action, all the learning about this in the world won't get you a girlfriend, facing your anxiety and attempting to meet girls, get to know them, and sleep with them... that is what will get you a girlfriend, you have to show intent, and there is a good chance the first girl you hit on will not be up for it

once you get that cat out of the bag and find some motivation from within yourself, you can maybe look into some deeper issues about yourself that you might want to try to improve, If you think having a girlfriend will change how you feel about yourself or all of a sudden that feeling of being incomplete or lonely will suddenly be fixed, you might be in for a surprise when you get what you wish for and you don't feel how you thought you would

GOOD LUCK

Girls care about intelligence but they don't care about grades (unless you fail badly of course).

And yea it's true: to get a girl you'll have to be atleast at the same level of social awareness. That is basically what the different pua methods try to achieve: give you the tools to make you look cooler. To make you more slick. Etc etc.