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First off I am new to the game and i am pretty afc, yet i am confident, outgoing and funny.I'm not here and learning game to sleep around and be a ass to women, I've done it before and while it's fun, it's not me, I'm rather here to improve myself as a person and to get along better with the opposite sex. While yea its not ideal I am what is considered a nice guy. Getting into "game" has really helped me tone it down and be more out there but my inner nice guy still comes out more often then I would like.
You can be a nice guy, just don't be a door mat. There's nice guys, and there's good guys... you want to be a good guy.
Also, treating women like crap is not a staple in PUA, at least not to my understanding. There's an edge, and that's where you want to be. Go over it, and you're an asshole. Be too far from it, and you're going to end up in LJBF (let's just be friends) land.
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So I've been talking to this girl for 3 weeks and at first I was really flirty and she was responding positively, and I was making it quite obvious what my intentions were, so over the last 3 days she has is still texting me first whenever we talk but she is constantly txting me with short closed statements.
Pardon me, but I need to be thorough here. Show us examples.
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Now throughout I have used some lines, but nothing overly sexual or out there(I know for a fact she isn't that type of girl) and at first she seemed to love it, now she just ignores it and responds with stuff about how she is always stressed and about how much school sucks etc, she is a self proclaimed drama queen and I don't mind that since my life is drama free and i handle drama well.
Stop kidding yourself. As much as you think you know she's not that type of girl, she's human and has a vagina. Sex is a human need, and she wants it just as bad as you do. Trust me, even the innocent librarian-type girl with glasses that I banged last week didn't appear to be "that type of girl," but I quickly changed her mind and guess what? She wants more, they all do.
Also, don't talk to her about school or any of that stuff. She's going to put you in the LJBF zone soon, and probably is already starting to see you as the nice guy, and not Lover material. Same goes for talking about other guys, boyfriends, stress.
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So last last I met up with her to see paranormal activity 3 and she was complaining about how scared she was and stuff, and I was also pretty nervous since I hate these movies,but throughout the movie she was fearless and constantly showing signs of bordom( i never screed or anything but i did jump once or twice, but i was constantly laughing because i actually enjoyed the excitement)
How old are you? If you're over 21, then I hope this wasn't a 1st date. And even if you aren't, you can do better than the movies or dinner for a 1st date. That's what all the other guys do. You don't want to be just another guy.
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Yes I was kinoing her throughout the night and making is clear I am interested. To make a long story short I text her after the movie saying it was fun etc etc and she replied with something along the lines of " I'm sorry I was so out of it I've been so tired lately and I'm stressed... Blah blah blah".
Wait... you TEXTED her after the movie? Why didn't you leave with her, kiss her, go for the make out, etc? If you were kinoing properly, you could have grabbed her by the hand and led her, and she would have felt comfortable with that. Your physical escalation was not high enough. Sounds like you need to read the material on here and practice.
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So now i am confused outta my mind and not sure what to do. I have been comforting her what is probaly way to much and pushing myself into what seems the friend zone, but i am not sure yet, as she wouldn't be constanly txting me and telling me stuff about herself if she wasn't interested. Please help out guys I kinda like this girl but I'm not really looking for a friend right now.
You're right about comforting her too. Stop it. Personally, if a girl starts talking about her problems to me, I ignore and change the subject or tease the reason she's stressed. If I find that I absolutely must, I LISTEN, and maybe have a short response. Women are built on emotions by the way, so when you are listening, ask them how it makes them feel, not provide them with a solution. This is called emotional spiking or some shit like that (somebody please correct me).
So what should you do now? Go read some more material, lighten up, and don't take this girl so seriously. This is will just be practice for you, for when you find the real women.