With the one exception of the occasion where she asked me to her sorority's date night, I am always the one who initiates text conversations or calls her to hang out.

I have made out with this girl on three different occasions -- everytime before we start she says - "Were not going to have sex." I am really into her and I don't want to screw this up.

Should I do some kind of freeze out of communication or even a freeze out in bed next time she says no sex?? Any other ideas?

do you want to make her your girlfriend? it sounds to me that you are past the stage of creating attraction and needing to game her. just do what feels right.

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Ahh yes that problem haha! Don't you find that this sort of thing ONLY happens when you ARE interested. Probably because we think too much...i am in a similar situation now...but i toned the texting down and especially the compliments, this seemed to shift her a little in my direction. Did you invite her to something more than "hanging out" like something creatively romantic?

With the girl I am currently seeing, it took weeks before she'd initiate first and now she is really into me and texts me virtually every day we're not together. At first I used to text her to arrange meeting up where I built attraction and eventually she began to invest more and started texting me.

Freeze out the communication a bit to see if she'll try to get in touch. If she doesn't then maybe she's not really interested. If she doesn't make any effort to be with you, well, her intentions seem pretty clear to me.

This is going to suck, but maybe she has other guy on the side. Now, don't come back saying she doesn't because you don't know (even if you think you know). This kind of behavior is typical of women who have "other stuff" going on in their lives.

A quick question, she's saying you're not going to have sex, but do you guys end up having sex after all? I'm confused because you said you were considering freeze the sex out.

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Thanks for your thoughts, guys. Bansario -- it is entirely possible that she is seeing someone else, but I don't think its all that productive to assume anything like that. I think I am going to stay away from texting her and only call her to hang out. Although she is going to Italy for a week and we talked about bbm-ing while she was there.

I haven't really even tried to have sex with her -- she shuts me down beforehand and I don't put pressure on her. I think that next time I am going to make some moves. I meant a freeze out in that sense -- like if she denies my advances then I will freeze out.

I told her that I would take her out on a date when we were drunk last week, and we are planning to 'hang out' tomorrow. I think I will just surprise her if I can think of something good to do.

Again -- thanks guys,
Dave