How should one go about gaming a girl such as a young 19 year old girl (HB 7.5, +1 for personality) who recently came out of a very rough relationship. So much so that she suddenly stops talked to you because when you kissed her (which she liked) it was too much for her. she doesn't let herself get close to guys anymore. And that is because of her X-BF who was her high-school hubby and broke her heart.. She is very worried about getting attached to a new person, so much so she completely cut off contact with me when she started sensing us getting close. We had only been on two dates. Also, the X-BF still has power over her, apparently he will call her a slut if he found out about us and the kiss. (note his opinion of her still matters to her)

How should one go about this? clearly she wont be intimate right now. Hang out as friends first? will I get stuck in freindzone? Or will I be able to chip away at her emotional baggage after extreme comfort is built allowing me to crawl out of friend arena.

note, please don't advise to "next her" because 1) I genuinely like her, life is to short to "next" a girl I actually like 2) she represents a unique challenge and learning experience and 3) I WILL be gaming other girls and getting laid during the process

Also, she is a typical good girl and very smart, which I love. (rarely drinks, straight A's in uni, church Sundays (slightly religious, not common in my area and age group), only had the one BF, likely only been with one or no guys) She is cute and bubbly, likes to be teased, and have fun.

thanks for the feedback boys - ill be sure to return the favor

Well, I would be compelled to say just friend zone her, because she probably has all sorts of messed up intimacy issues.

I don't really know how you'd get through someone's emotional baggage. The honorable and kind gentleman inside me would suggest building comfort and rapport and showing her that you're not like her ex-boyfriend and attempt to restore her faith in men. However you're highly likely to be friendzoned... A similar thing happened to me.

I dunno, just try and make sure she knows you're not down to just be friends.

Freeze her out if you know what's good for you.

No one wants to listen to all her emotional crap and neither should you. You think she will see you as her knight in shining armor every time she spills her heart out to you?

If you ever want a chance of getting laid with her, escalate until she resists then back off and tell her you're not going to wait forever.

thanks for the feedback. I understand your reasoning with the freeze out, but in this case, if i do that im 90% sure she will just freeze me out right back (which she did before) and it will be over. She is not yet invested enough in me, to come back after a freeze out. we have been on TWO dates.

What I will do is friend-zone her to an extent, but it will be clear it is never actually just as friends through body language, Kino, etc. She will know that I am not down to just be friends, but i will refrain from kissing again until the time is right. To some extent i will be her knight in shining Armour and show her not all guys were like her EX. The absolute key will be striking the right balance between not to forward and scaring her off again, but constantly having just a bit of sexual tension to avoid friend zone. And plus, I have kissed her, which was a big deal for HER. so there is already sexual tension to begin with.