This chick is one of those cougars who could pass for 27-30, but she is 38. Met her on match. I have little experience in this area. How to proceed?

Basically, she inititates, and within an hour she gives me her number and says call her if I want to talk. I decide it's late on a work night, so don't play games with this, and just call her.

On the phone, she's immediately testing me at every opportunity, questioning whether we're even a good match, accusing me of trying to get girls with some of my kinda DHV photos. She literally sounds like an 18 yr old cheerleader. By the end of the call I've taken her down a few pegs but she's still tough. We agree to meet up and that I'll text her my schedule.

So I guess I feel in over my head. Anyone got experience with these types? When should I followup with her?

She's just throwing shit tests because:
1) she's insecure about her age
2) she wants to know if you can handle an older woman
3) she may be really horny and wants to fuck a stranger (you might not be the only one she's doing it to).

Be confident. Let me repeat that: BE CONFIDENT. Cougars are not difficult, as long as you show that the age difference is not a problem and that you won't be playing her games.

This could help you somehow: http://bosproject.com/blog/dating-older ... t-cougars/

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Yo thx man - Always read your advice with interest.

You're right - the age insecurity did come out a little.

So what I'm hearing from you is contact her whenever - don't play the 'wait x days' game, and be direct/suggest a time.

Thanks for the link - am checkin it.

Glad I can help

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Set up a date to meet her at a nice lounge for drinks on a weeknight, near where she lives (strategic). I do not know much about her section of town, but I did not broadcast that. Instead, I gave her a time and location to meet me.

Did it through text, and was left scratching my head again.

It was like talking to a dude vs. the seductive girly girl I talked to on the phone the night before. No playful responses, purely logistics. I sent one playful text after we agreed on the logisitcs. No response.

Guess I'm used to girls who are heavy on the texts and emoticons and shit. And some girls want to talk before the first date. So...

Should I communicate with her at all before the date or is it basically set it and forget it?

honestly, she sounds kind of like a downer

a real social misfit, lol

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Haha nice to see you Mack.

she's seems like a cool chick. I know that I am putting too much value on her right now cuz a) never messed with this age group and i'm psyched and b) if she's as hot as her photos i don't want to fuck it up.

k i love cougars, these ladies do not play, they know what they want and they get it most of them married or divorce... Most of the time they act and think like men... in 15 minutes after you meet them they know if they want to do you or not... Oh best they will do you right away, and they won't be clingi after sex... I love them, freaky in bed they know what they are doing, so be careful with premature ejaculation lol...

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thanks for input skills...always appreciate it. I'm 32, have been messing with the 24-29 range mainly.

I basically told her instead of asked her. She simply responds 'sounds like a plan'. Very businesslike.

So basically when I meet her...escalate quickly and try to bounce to her place. This is my plan.

When older women text, they're generally more to the point, they're not gushy and they rarely leave kisses or use emoticons. That's more of an internet generation thing tbh.

Milfs and cougars are a man's best friend. No fucking around, no bs, just plain straight clarity. Sex is sex and that's that. Love em all.

this explains alot. i was talking to a cougar last night at a club who told me "i want to play with you" hahahha i didnt move into acting sexually because i thought it was a shit test and she moved on. well now i know, thanks guys.

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Oh yea they are very blunt, they will tell you take me home tonight, i want to fuck you, i want to play with etc... very straight forward...

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not all older women are cougars

cougars wear the tight clothes, walk a certain way, talk a certain way, everything is in leopard print (LOL), and they usually roam in packs, and they are out SPECIFICALLY looking for young dick.

older women are just ... well ... women ... who happen to be older.

one must calibrate to know the difference.

i am dating an older woman, and she is NOT a cougar.

and by that i mean:

- she didn't meet me and say "fuck me tonight"
- she DOES use smiley faces and LOLs in texts
- she dressed very modestly
etc

just puttin' it out there

it's kind of like rectangles and squares

all squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares

all cougars are older women, but not all older women are cougars

peace

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point well taken.

I suppose I misused the term in my thread title, then. This one I'm dealing with is simply an older woman that I find hot, definitely 8 or above based on photos in her profile.

Some of her pics are downright homely, but in my experience that means little when you get em into the wild.

So rectangle or square - I will have to find out...