I've been seeing a girl for a month and have had sex with her. She's slept over at mine multiple times and I've done so at hers. However I asked her to add me on Facebook and she was extremely reluctant, eventually she did and I clicked on one of the lads profiles who she speaks to a lot and it said he was in a relationship with her. He's in a different country but she has lied to me saying she's not seeing anyone else. She even stated she wanted a relationship when we first started going out.

In normal situations I would next her. However she's best friends with my female housemate and it would seem extremely awkward.

I was thinking just to invite her round and ask her about it since that would be the most mature thing to do. I'm not heartbroken but i'm a bit confused as to why she would do this and lie.

What should I do guys?

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

that is how woman really are..

i said it 102104012041040 times on this forum but guys won't listen...

this is the biological psychology of woman .. this is what they do.
whatever answer she will give or whatever action she will do
it seems completely illogical and you will not be able to explain.

I've seen woman do the weirdest shit.... we are animals and when woman do such thing they are just operating according the animal/ instinctive/ emotional side.

it's not logical .. it's just how things are...

that woman will not realize she has lied or cheated .. she doesn't know anything .. ehr body hijacked her brain.

read the selfish gene..
and listen to david deangelo DD advanced series

not the best material BUT it will explain a large part in a easy way

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aside from that .. when you fail to fullfill a womans self interest and her sexual needs so will dump you in a heartbeat.

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So are you saying if I got with this girl (even though I won't) she'll cheat on me as soon as one of her needs aren't being met or could do it better?

Does this also mean more women are prone to this 'selfish gene' more than others?

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

I'd say the best thing you can do right now is not listen to Lodewijkp, that is not how women are, that is how some women are, last time i looked all men weren't the same either.

You need to take it one step at a time.

1. Are they really dating?
I have multiple female friends who are listed as in a relationship, either as a joke, or with their favorite gay friend. Facebook isn't that serious, I strongly suggest you confront either her or your roommate about this, not the maybe-boyfriend.

2. Does it bother you?
Sure, it's a definite possibility that you are her exciting thing on the side, he lives in another country so it's not like she is getting any from him, or maybe they are in an open relationship. but if it doesn't bother you, then there's really no need to panic about it.
If it does however, confront her. You said it brilliantly yourself it's the most mature thing to do. Maybe if you''re unlucky, she'll break it off with you, but if she is already using you on the down low i highly doubt it.

Good luck mate.

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No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens. ~Abraham Lincoln

Because i can.

You may be overreacting....

The guy that should be worried is the guy in the other country!!!

That thing about the relationship could be old or fake as someone has said.

Find out the facts before ending what could be a good situation.

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

some are more prone than others... but the majority of woman are like this.

if you don't fullfill a woman instinctive needs and concious self-interest ( emotional connection etc ) she will dump you...

all woman think about fucking other men.. just like you think about fucking other woman...so if you fullfill her needs YES you will get into a relationship.

even if you are ''the one'' she will still think about fucking other guys wether it's concious or unconcious and it's still a possiblity she will act to according to those thoughts.

if you get into a relationship with a woman ... just accept her human and animal side...once you have accepted the fact that she's flawed you will be more open to her negative behaviour and you will be more able to notice it.

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It depends on what your feelings are for this girl.

If you view her as a FB then why should you do anything? You are getting sex without the hassle of having a girlfriend. A lot of males would be happy with that and wouldn't want to disrupt that.

I could be wrong but the feeling I get when reading your post is that you have developed feelings for this girl. If this is correct then you are going to have to speak to her and ask her for an explanation. Be warned though there is a good chance she will break it off with you because she will be worried your feelings for her are that strong and you could pose a threat to her current relationship.