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PostPosted: Sat Oct 22, 2011 8:02 am 
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So tonight (2:15 am in Hartford, CT) I came out of a club and as I was waiting outside, I see this beautiful blonde standing near by. So I go there and the conversation goes like this:

Me: "Hi, what's your name?"

Girl: "My name is 'I have a boyfriend' nice to meet you".

Me: "Well, first of all, slow down for a second. I introduced myself politely and there's no need for the attitude." (confidence look with no hesitation and direct eye contact).

Girl: "I'm just letting you know so we're clear. Guys just come all the time and you have to break things down for them." (said with less attitude)

Me: "Oh has it been one of those nights in which guys come left and right and just wanna get in your pants? cute..."

Girl: "Hmm, not really..." (even less attitude given)

Me: "Ok, so if that hasnt been the case, then there's no need for you to come off the way you did when I was just making conversation. It's my first time in this club, and I'm not even from this city (which is true) so what kind of impression do you think I'm getting?" (I try to break the tension a bit...)

Girl: "I'm so sorry...I know I came off a bit strong. I apologize and want you to know I'm not like that. I'm hanging out with my cousins tonight and my boyfriend is not even here. Where are you from?" (in my mind I'm like Jackpot ;) ).

Me: "Don't want to tell you cause then you'd hate on me the way you did when I introduced myself" (DLV to make her qualify herself)

Girl: "No, please tell me, I want to know now"

Me: "I'm from NYC (I'm in Connecticut where people don't appreciate the NY Yankees which is a baseball team for those of you who don't know)"

Girl: "I'm actually a Yankee fan...cool" (Jackpot once more...)

Me: "Ok, anyway, my name is___, are you going to tell me yours or you should I call you 'girl with the fake boyfriend'"

Girl: "The boyfriend is not fake, but my name is _____"

Me: "Nice to meet you, listen, I have to go now (friends were waiting), but let's talk some other time. Don't worry, your boyfriend, if he exists, won't care about you making new friends. What's your number?" (as i pulled out my cellphone)

Girl: "123-124-1244 call me right now so I have yours saved" (which I did and confirmed it was the right number)

Me: "Alright, talk to you later, and stop being so bitchy with strangers. Some of us can be really nice and fun too...you just don't know it, yet. Give me a hug (which she did)....now give me a kiss (which she did too-nothing crazy by the way)"

Girl: "Oh my god...call me tomorrow after 6pm"

Me: "Yeah, cool, later...."

I looked back and my friends were like :shock:

My point was not to give you a complete field report, but to ask you: How would you handle initial rejection?

I know some people would just leave her to keep their dignity while others would pull through even if it doesnt go anywhere. In the worst case scenario, some guys would get depressed for the rest of the night.

But, what would you do if you approached someone and initially her bitch-shield was so high she just seemed untouchable?

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Well bansario this was just a shit test like any other the way I would handle it is ignore it or use it against her as you did. She is just trying to filter out the alpha males from the beta males. For example

She: "My name is 'I have a boyfriend' nice to meet you"(she is on attack)
Me : Oh wow I'm just talking with you for less than 5 seconds to you and you already thinking of us being together.(now am attacking her instead of getting on defense and saying something like "oh no i was just trying to make new friends)
Me : I mean like what did you find so attractive about me that you already thought sexually of me so fast.
She: Well Blah blah balh (shes now on defense)
Me : Well ok then now I can chat to you knowing you won't drag me with you to be bed tonight. At least without knowing me.
From then on you will be of higher value because she's is now perceived as the one thinking sexually of you.

Another way would be just to ignore her remark and imagine as if her initial rejection is not there. She will be amazed because most probably she has never seen any other guy do that.

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Well bansario this was just a shit test like any other the way I would handle it is ignore it or use it against her as you did. She is just trying to filter out the alpha males from the beta males. For example

She: "My name is 'I have a boyfriend' nice to meet you"(she is on attack)
Me : Oh wow I'm just talking with you for less than 5 seconds to you and you already thinking of us being together.(now am attacking her instead of getting on defense and saying something like "oh no i was just trying to make new friends)
Me : I mean like what did you find so attractive about me that you already thought sexually of me so fast.
She: Well Blah blah balh (shes now on defense)
Me : Well ok then now I can chat to you knowing you won't drag me with you to be bed tonight. At least without knowing me.
From then on you will be of higher value because she's is now perceived as the one thinking sexually of you.

Another way would be just to ignore her remark and imagine as if her initial rejection is not there. She will be amazed because most probably she has never seen any other guy do that.
Yeah, I see your point. I'd be careful with the sexual remarks so early though (considering I go for the first alternative) but again, anything delivered with confidence has a good chance to work...or not :)

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I like how you handle it. Depending on my mood, if I'm energetic/don't give a fuck my initial response would probably be something in the direction of "Wow, I can tell you are good at making new friends! I like you. Do you like ice cream?".

Otherwise I'd probably be more down to earth and something more comparable to your "there's no need for attitude just saying hi etc".


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