Hey brothers,

Long story short.. chick at work mad kino who was going on at work so I asked her to come shopping with me not so much kino and a lil awkward but good kino arriving towards the end of shopping with the oppurtunity to bounce her. I still wasn't sure if I wanted her at this point so I thought fuck it, i want to go gym she can wait till later.

Get back to work a few days i'm having a shit week and being grumpy as fuck she sees this. Not to much conversation happens with me and her and it wasn't as flirtly as usual. The only interesting thing was that her friends at work started to pay more attention to me.

I msged her the other day saying hey lets go shopping because I finally decided that I do like her. But she never replied.

Anyways, I was thinking of frezeing her out and paying more attention to her friends to get them on side.

Should I flirt with other girls at work (not her friends) and smash her with IOD's?
Should I even mention her not replying?

What do you think of the situation ?

What do you think of my game plan?

And is it worth pursuing still?

I feel like a pussy asking you guys but I think this may be a case of oneitis


Thanks brothers

Maintain the rage
BARON

trying to fuck girls you work with = shitting where you eat, getting over your AA, and doing some cold approach is most likely a better idea, once you are good at that, more likely to succeed easily at the warm approach, without creeping all the girls you know out,

flaky girl, best ways to deal with these and try and re-kindle them, is freeze outs, jealousy (be fucking carefull with this one, can dis-qualify you instead of helping if it isn't innocent and subtle), and massive comfort building (this has to do with buyers remorse, you escalate but don't finish, she might think man he really turns me on, if I go near him again we might have sex, hard to recover from this but nothing is impossible if she is comfortable enough) then thirdly could be just plain and simple she is not attracted to you at all, you might be telegraphing interest somehow and she has none for you, and this is her light way of letting you down gently, she will be nice with you at work maybe a lil flirty and touchy, but it is friendly to her ~ it is tough to say but flakes are generally a bad sign of a waste of time and could be a million reasons why she would flake, being genuine or excuse

If it was me, I would just move on, freeze her out, if she contacted me, I would build a bit of comfort and ask her out, but I would not contact her, also helpful if you have not shown any intent or interest in her, to let her know (if you haven't hit on her or escalated, she might think you don't like her in that way), instead of hitting on her friends, go out a few times a week, approach some girls you don't know, hit on them, try to get some phone numbers, maybe if you just leave her alone for a while she will come to you and you can do what I mentioned above, if after building some comfort she still doesn't come out, don't call her on it or anything, just be normal, and forget about her and move on, she can be your new texting buddy to practise with or something, and maybe if you get good at texting her some day she will invite you out (really likely by this point though you are far into the friend zone if you are not allready)

when you are at work be indifferent, don't be mean, don't be rude, but don't go to her trying to give her attention either, just be normal, don't try to talk to her, if she talks to you, be normal, don't chase, wait her out and be strong, don't get jealous if she trys, don't do random favours for her, don't get angry if she is rude, just ignore her

GOOD LUCK

Pumpington,

Damn your good. Your advice really helped man. I think your right I should freeze her out and move on. I'll give you a point if I can figure this damn thing out.




thanks'

Maintain the rage
BARON