Just like the topic says. How do you guys keep your frame of mind?

- Do you listen to songs to pump you up?
- Do you repeat words in your head over and over?
- Do you have any special technique at all?

The reason I ask this, is because I'm seeing my Ex next week. (its not what you think - its a party that we're both invited to). And the thing is, I just end up depressed around her. She's like some evil witch that sucks the life outta ya. And I want her to realize that I don't give a flying shit about her, without making a scene. I want to look happy, and be the life of the party, which I normally would do.

So does anyone have any answers to this?

It seems like since she is your Ex you kind of still have feeling for her strongly enough for her to ruin your mood. when i first started this happened to me a couple times and i had no control over it until i started realizing that it was not worth it she obviously was not phased by me. im just rambling but easy way to get rid of that at this moment is to get out there and talk to as many girls as you can before this party to realize she isnt shit.. im just going off what you posted but about the songs/ repeats in the head you are sounding very AFC your thinking too much about it/her. also while at the party DO NOT make any contact with her at ALL this will be a counter to her putting you in a bad mood and most likely make her go crazy that she has lost control over you!

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"leave her better than before"

I would say I am very positive on life. After reading the secret, I can not have any negative aspect on life. I pretty much go about my day with a positive mindset, no matter how I wake up.

The secret fully explains the Laws of attraction and what ever you speak you have to believe it.so whenever you say anything negative all your doing is releasing negative thoughts to the universe and the laws of attraction are going to bring negative clouds and connotations to you. Just like you admitted that you get depressed when your ex is around you, it will continue unless you stop telling your self your depressed and you are happy she gone.

Always remain positive no matter the outcome, also you have to speak the truth, if your truly not over your ex, you have to tell yourself that you are not and that the next girl you get is going to be 10x better then her. Never lie to yourself.

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Just Like Chess I know the Rules-- And I bet I Checkmate her in like 4 moves--Trey Songz
Not Every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you it is what you do that makes them attracted to you.

Hey Dudanderson

I can totally relate, I will go out with a few mates and there will be a girl in the group who ive dated, and ill see her talking to other guys having a ball and it will get me down, this can be a really tricky situation, because you see this happening, it makes you go all quiet and feel shit, which in turn makes you more anti social which in turn makes you feel even more depressed!

A good trick ive found, is to try with all your might to focus your attention on the most positive person in the group, try and get in a one on one convo with them, and just focus on everything they say like its pure gold, I was sitting in a bar with about 7-8 people, 1 of which being an ex, I would keep looking over at her, seeing her having fun, so I just turned to this other girl, this girl who I wasnt interested in at all! she was a hb5 so nothing to write home about, but she was fun, she was having such a good time, I focused all my attention onto her, and her positive energy rubbed off on me, all of a sudden her and I were having the most interesting convo of the whole table, then everyone wanted in, and I soon forgot about my ex,

Try it out, see how you go

Regards

-Astro

Couldn`t agree more with you ) I`ve had this problem with thinking about my ex for a long time, but it`s not worth it. Just go out, meet women and keep positive attitude

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There are no lesbians, just women who never met Sid.

Best way to keep a good mindset is to see reality how it is.

Your world doesn't revolve around her.It's as simple as that.

Just be happy, don't pretend or act like being happy. Be like that! You might try avoiding her, by not paying attention. Focus on your happiness and do your best to have a good time with your friends, by doing that your energy and empathy will be with your friends and not with your Ex. Forget about her presence.