I met a girl whilst in line for some uni fire lecture.

We exchanged numbers, kinda seemed just friendly though (oh Im great a meeting girls for friendship).

Anyway she has a BF back at home and i would've been a bit more forward or aggressive if she didn't know people in my social circle but she speaks to a lot of people i know on a regular basis. People i see everyday and some i even live with.


Basically i 'think' its on but i want to make sure she doesn't see me as her new BF. Its not that i dont want a GF, its that i want to CHOOSE if she's gunna be my GF not fall into a relationship as i still want to learn the skillset of picking up chicks. Its something i need to get sorted.


I believe if we meet up alone together anymore than a few times it will be like we are starting to date.

I also believe if i can get the 'dates' in my room/flat then it isn't so much like dating but FB's even if the first few meets are just hanging out. Its the fact its in my room not out going to the cinema and for walks.

Is this me thinking silly? Im really trying not to be the provider-BF type in general. Although secretly I'd love a girlfriend

Long post because i wanted to make sure i said the background/frame right and accurate! Thanks guys!

Hey man. I'm a third year now I presume you are a fresher?

When I started uni I wanted a GF but I also wanted to use my PU skills as its the perfect place with shit loads of girls around looking for friends. However I was seeing two girls at the same time, both with boyfriends who lived in the opposite block AND they're rooms were next to each other!!! (This actually happened I'm not making this up!!!) I ended up with the first girl who broke up with her BF of 4 years within 3 weeks of uni!!

Basically if they find you a better time than their BFs then they will prefer to spend time with you. Become the centre of attention in your friendship group just as when you would approach a set and DHV - show them how much fun you are. Never mention their BF and just hang out with her with friends but isolate her occasionally so to get more alone time. Talk about stuff you have in common like a TV show (I used the OC as everyone loves it or a film series you like) get it on your laptop and invite them to watch it on your bed with the room darkened out of course. Escalate kino slowly and kiss her.

Good luck and let me know how it goes x

hey man!! thanks for the reply, really great advice.

You said a lot of things i had a 'feeling' about but too unsure of myself to do, i can't meet chicks through social circle i always feel like im friend -zoned from the get-go.

Movie idea is a good one, i try making my room a place to watch movies with everybody so I'm the 'fun' guy and then people dont get suspicious when i invite just 1 person around (keeping it a secret/lower asd).


Ill let you know how it goes!