I got my haircut a few weeks ago from this real cute girl. We got to talking while she was cutting my hair and she seems like an awesome girl. I knew I wanted to try to take this girl out 5 mins after I met her. We talked a lot about her job and how long she's been workin and i told her about how I just graduated from college and was heading back there for a halloween party and a bunch of other stuff. Just random general conversation. Anyways she did a real nice job so I told her that and asked her for a card so I could have her cut my hair again.

I got my haircut again from her, called ahead to make sure she was there and she sounded excited when I said I was coming in. We talked more and when she washed my hair after the cut she took a real long time as if she didn't want me to go. It also seemed a lot more sensual then the first time. Weird I know but it kinda turned me on. Anyways I got her number and haven't txted her or fbooked her or anything. I want to date this girl and I don't want to screw it up with my awful txt message game. When should I txt her and what should I say?

Shes 19 and I'm 22. I just started a new job and she seemed impressed with what I do so idk. Honestly I never get like this. Usually I could care less I just talk to a girl and if something happens it happens but I could not stop thinking about ths girl after the first time I met her. That has never happened to me before. I don;t want to mess this up so I'd appreciate any help. I got her number around 5 Sunday I was planning on txtin her Tuesday.

ur already behind cause now ur premeditating on it causing u to fuck up building anxiety..txt her asking like and b she is allready gonna say yes make it seem like ur a prize id play it out something like this

u:hey
her:hey who is this
u:ur name
her:ohh hey whatsup
u:what time we getting drinks tonight ?
at this point idk what she is gonna say but the first part is diff ur allready seem like u kno she is gonna say yes just when ?
anyways let me know how it pans out for u best of luck

If you're not confident text gaming then play it safe. It's easy to fuck things up through text messages or fb game, because she can't read your body language etc.

Just be cool, don't be too abundant or overenthousiastic. Send her a message to keep the contact, and send her later a spontaneous text message to meet up. I also don't use abbreviations (like "how r u?") because my opinion is that it's kind of immature.

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Thanks for the tips guys. Do you guys think waiting a couple days to txt and going twenty to forty mins between txts is a good idea? How much txting is to much? Short and sweet best for when you first start txtin? Plus she's 19 so I'd like to get a drink with her but don't know how that would come off. What's a good place to go. For a first date?

this is what i would text her...

'' i suck at texting...im terrible at asking people for a drink through texting.. ok now i fucked up ; do you want to join me for a drink next xxxxx ''

you are not confident with texting.. you don't want to look like a loser.. why fucking hide the fact that you suck at texting .. just text her you suck at texting. what i wrote look original .. most chodes send uber long text messages on how good she looks and other random chode shit...the shit i wrote is original , direct , short and kind of goofy and funny..

do not call it a date and do not act like it's a date...

maybe you are like .. jezus lod does weird texting ... maybe thats so but i guarantee that my text will have 50 times more chance of succeeding than yours....

could be you need to text her a bit before asking her out.. just to get some rapport going , if that's the case talk about something funny you have seen on the news or talk about something she likes and make little jokes about it.

like shyler says .. do not say ''how are you''... that comes of needy and like you don't know what to say - i don't even send text messages like that to my fuckbuddies - i rather text something like '' hey bitch time to fuck ''.... you get my point...ask question you really want to ask.... you don't fucknig care how she's doing - you want her to suck your dick AT LEAST you want a fun date with her which you can enjoy.. who cares how she's doing.... i would hope she feels like shit so she's more prone to going out with me.

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Dude I suggest that you first flirt with her a bit (from what u hve written, it looks like u guys only met up twice) then mabye after a few days of txting or the next time u get ur haircut ask her out. Remeber u are still a stranger that she dusnt fully know.

If you build enough attraction and comfort through txt messages then her txts should tell u when the right time is to ask her out. Watch out for those txt IOI's (Indicator of Interest's).

In my opinion txting can really f- your game up if u dun kno how to txt girls the right way. Be sure to not make the mistake shown in the example below.

Most AFC's would txt interrogate them and shyt. They tend to give the impression that they are boring to be with. Don't be boring! Ur that fun interesting guy that makes other guys look like losers.

For Example:

Guy: Hey, hows it going?
Girl: Hi [your name]. just got back from work. watching tv...blah blah blah
Guy: What are you watching?
Girl: Re-runs of [her favourite tv show]
Guy: Cool. do you like tv shows better or movies?
Girl: i like going to movies!
Guy: awesome. do you wanna go watch [latest movie] with me this Tuesday?
Girl: [no reply]

...sounds just a bit like what grasshopper765 suggested doing (No offence 'grasshopper765'..just constructive criticism)

You prob. could txt that to a girl ur already dating for a while and you'll get a positive response cause shes completely comfortable with and attracted to you.

Also remember to control the txt tempo:
- if she takes long to reply back then you also take long to reply back
- If you sent her 1 txt and she still hasn't gotten back to you then don't send another one until either a couple of hours or the next day...or even after two days. (you dun wanna seem desperate or give her the impression that you are chasing her)

Try opening by using a pet name for her or sumthing like: Hows my no. 3 dork doing? (number 3 meaning you've got other women in your life as well)

how bout: Hey Dork! hows ur day treating ya?

or how about this: hey i ran into ur twin today.. [then start flirting away]. be creative and try to be funny or something. you'll figure it out.

Btw im new to this forum so feedback would be appriciated. Do inform me of how it does with her. id like ta follow-up with this! If my tips helped il gve you some more

--Chase12

sorry, accidently posted my previous post twice. I can't seem to delete it for sum reason.

make it short and sweet say ur cold and u wanna get a coffee or something or ur hungry dont do it like u would ask someone who would allready be saying yes

Guy: Hey, hows it going?
Girl: Hi [your name]. just got back from work. watching tv...blah blah blah
Guy: What are you watching?
Girl: Re-runs of [her favourite tv show]
Guy: Cool. do you like tv shows better or movies?
Girl: i like going to movies!
Guy: awesome. do you wanna go watch [latest movie] with me this Tuesday?
Girl: [no reply]

this is so boring and predicable and no one actually cares about any of this

you need to set that funny playfull frame when you meet her..

you cannot be all mono in real life and suddenly become all fucking cocky funny on texting .. it's incongruent..

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Or the next time you get a haircut be like this new movie came out or I found this new cool bar, I was thinking maybe we can go after you cut my hair

'Lodewijkp' great advice. Go for what he said

This is actualy good advice. But this require balls as well. Not for use if you're not confident showing weakness.

I actualy don't care about text game at all. I try to reduce text game as much as possible. It is the real life interaction that counts in the end.

I can't tell you how much you should text message her. That depends on you and the chick. But don't message too often and keep messages short.

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Great advice thanks. I think I'll just txt her and see where it goes. I won't try to rush into hanging out especially with the holidays comin up I'm sure she's busy

Alright, let me keep you from fucking this up. Text game is wrong, very possible, they're some real pro's out there, but the lack of body language will articulate you're smiley faces into creepy stalker smiley faces. (Sometimes, eh)

So, with that said, let us begin.

Before I get into my idea on the text game in relation to your situation, for an alternative method to avoid the text game I would suggest going back for another hair cut. Here is where you will hopefully seal 1/2 of the deal. This is where you will really game her in that moment.
You: Hey (her name) i'm in a bit of a rush i've got date tonight.
At this point take careful note of her response to when you say this, see if she seems disappointed via body language if possible...anyway!
Her: Oh that's great, what kind of haircut today?
You: the usual
At this point you can get some intell, asking her female perspectives on what a woman may expect in a man or w/e doesnt have to be that but you get the idea you can fish around for the information that would help this situation out better. After you receive an answer you could even say somthing like "what is you're ideal date, get a little personal, in fact as personal as you can get sense you've already disqualified yourself...or have you....hmmm (you can even say something like "Her name" you've been cutting my hair for weeks now and i don't know anything about you "in a playful manner"
Her: Haha, maybe a movie and a dinner would be a great date.
You: perfect that's where i'll take her
Once the haircut is over you thank her and part ways...or do you?
nope, you walk about 2 feet away and make a phone call or text to the girl that gave you the haircut and say :Hey i just finished getting a haircut, i heard your into movies, should we see "A" or B" (movie names) as she answers she's already understood the whole irony behind this whole situation and how it was secretly preordained. Smooth.....at this point if she truly likes you...she will agree if you she says no, you're shit out of luck, lets hope not.

And now for the text game alternative: i have no fucking clue i suck at text game stick to the words above Besides why text, when you can get up n close, personal, you can read all her signs, via body language and quicker responses instead of waiting 2 days for a response to your "Hey how are you"

And like you said don't rush it but, definitely don't waste time, the holidays is no excuse to pardon you from getting that babe! if anything the holidays is the perfect time, woman are excepting of the idea of a relationship during the cold seasons, summer time is party time, so it's where most break ups occur in my opinion.