I don't really know where to post this, so here would be a good start I guess. (If a mod reads this, please decide for the best place on the forum, I wanted to post this in the Lounge but I don't meet the requirement of 50 posts..) Now, onwards to the problem/situation.

How we met:
We met during work (in a restaurant/bar/club), hadn't seen HBcoworker since then when we met each other while going out. I didn't recognize HBcoworker as a coworker so I just went in and she said, you're HerrFlick right? (Mind = Blown!)

How we treated each other:
Anyway, since then we treat each other different every time. During work we are respectable co-workers who do make witty jokes/comments. If we both were on a night out, one time we would grant each other attention/looks or we would not speak a word to each other all night. This has been playing for a long while now and that's partly my fault ofcourse because I'm too chicken to actually try and seduce HBcoworker. (I guess she same counts for her, I don't know) I do notice that when we are both out and we don't speak, I feel her looking at me. We also still have 'plans' to take salsa-lessons together, although these already stand for 6 months already...

The problem:
She introduced me to an old roommate of hers (from about 2 years back or so) last time and we got talking. To cut a long story short, after good conversation with HBroommate of about 2,5 hours we got to dancing/kissing. (while she actually was 6 years older then me, lol!) I didn't take her home though, because I missed the hints. In hindsight, I think that's for the best.

Now, I'm afraid that this spontanious event between me and HBroommate has ruined ALL my chances with HBcoworker now! Last night I was suited up and out in that bar with some of my friends, I noticed she was present as well. I decided to ask one of my friends to keep an eye on her, so he could spot if I was crazy or not (I was convinced that she still would keep looking and stuff). My friend confirmed what I thought, she was still looking with a positive gaze of 'I wonder what he's doing/up to'. Which is positive I believe.

Now I need a plan of action. In the past year I've gained alot insights on how I behave and 'perform' when I slip into my natural state. So I'm more confident to actually seduce her with succes, this is gf-material what I'm talking about here!

I hope you guys can give me good insights, I'm a bit lost here...

Bump!

Come on guys, I need your insights! I really want to have this worked out!

Instead of wondering how into you she is by the way she looks at you just seduce her (HBcoworker) if that's the girl you want the most.. but don't waste anymore time than you already have.. try erase the fact you think you may have blown your chance out of your mind..

If things don't work out with her there's always HBroommate..

Go for both

Thx!

I should go in with a fresh mind then. I should refrain from saying stuff that involves the salsa thing I guess, seeing this still hasn't been picked up by us.

Next friday I'm having a party and she's invited. Perfect chance to try and seduce her I presume (I had invited HBroommate too, I'm wondering how this is gonna go down if they both turn up...)


Any more things I should know? I'm still worried that I will encounter a road which is bumpier than normal because I made it so difficult for myself!

Bump!

Still wondering if there are more insights on this. Seeing I still have some time left, I want to make sure I make some good choices before deciding on a certain course of action...

Not ruined at all. You just boosted your social proof by showing HBcoworker that her own friends find you attractive, and by not giving her too much attention. You are inadvertently doing exactly what you are supposed to do, albeit in a very slow and dragged out way. Now the part you're missing is where you finally turn around and show HBcoworker some attention, with confidence, and escalate to kino, kissing etc.

Alright, thank you all!

I got similar responses from fellow pua from the area here, so I'm glad that I'm still not out of there yet!