Hi im new to this forum. I have been searching for ways to attract girls, so this is my situation:

There is a new girl in my work place about 1month ago, that im interested in, we are in the same "clique" so i will get to see her everyday except weekends. In the 1st 2 week when she just came, we hit off well. We had several 1 on 1 dinner b4 after work.When i texted her, she usually took around 10min to 1hour to reply

But as soon as i am more aware of me liking her, i started to be more quiet around her and i can feel that we are "drifting apart" now. This is my main problem too I tried asking her out to follow me buy some stuff during the recent saturday and she said she is lazy (excuse i guess).

And i dont know weather those PUA tactics will work on her or not. So i really need help on this, Im beggining to lose hope now


Thank you

You had several dinner dates with her and you didnt express interest?


1. Are you related to her?
2. Are you gay?


If you answered no to both these questions, then she's starting to think that you're a limp dick whose too pussy to put the moves on her. Prove her wrong and make a move.

lol what do u mean by "you didnt express interest"? I do like her, maybe its the way i put that makes it misleading. And no im not gay lol. Right now i dont know if she is interested in me or put me in her friend zone which i dont want.

Now whenever she is around me, i feel a "wall" on me that makes me quieter which sucks totally, how do i get rid of that "wall"?

The wall is called lack of experience.

It's hard whether to say what you should do. I tend to not go for girls in my immediate circle but when you've been 1on1 with the girl there's been interest. Hmmz, difficult situation. Do whatever you feel like but make you sure things won't get too awkward and keep your dignity at all times.

Yeah thanks! And should i text her everyday?

By all means no.

I mean you took her out on a date and you didnt make it obvious you dig her? Youre on a fast track to LJBF. She's going to assume you're too much of a pussy to make a move on her, and you will lose all interest from there. And this is going to happen quicker than you think, if it hasnt already started.

Wow i wont want that Because in one part of me, i keep thinking she went out to eat with me because we are friends and not coz she is a little interested in me.
So i keep wondering is it coz we are frens or interested in me that make her eat with me. Im kinda a pessimistic person so i keep thinking the worst case >.<

Edit: I just now tried asking her out by following me to get stuff for our friend's "farewell gift" tomorrow after work. But she said cant as her fren is meeting her at night. I dont know is that flaking or not but i have a feeling its a lie

Then i guess 3 or 4 days a week hmm

bump =x

Minimize all contact. Make her want you.

no, 1 time a week max, 1 time per 2 weeks optimum

if she contacts you that is fine be normal

ohh i see, then how shall i talk to her, to gain her attraction, when i see her during work? Teasing her?

need more opinions xD


thanks

look, there is no magical way to get a girl to want to fuck you, you have a few aspects, where you fit socially, how much monetary gain you can offer, how good looking you are, how much you actually go for it without being needy, what sort of future worth do you present for her/what can she gain from being with you lifestyle wise in the future

you want to have sex with her, you need to convey interest without being needy, and keep increasing how much compliance she gives you, until she complies with sex, escalate

if she wont be alone with you, and wont give you compliance, there is not very much you can do, she either

1)doesn't like you physically

or

2)doesn't like you emotionally

but you have to keep in mind, some women LOVE and I mean LOVE, attention, the just fucking crave it, like vampires, they will lead guys on for the validation, to feel like they are special and important, HEY LOOK BECKY, ALL THESE GUYS WANT INSIDE ME, HAHAHAHA BUT I ONLY FUCK GUYS THAT DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ME,

start giving less of a shit,
giving less of a shit = not needy, not reacting to her emotional outbursts she has when she is PMS'ing (aka shit tests)

leave her alone man, she is not into you, if you want more of a chance of that changing, you have to change, either physically or personality wise, stop treating her like she is super important and you need to win her over,

start treating her like, she is really into you, and she is just crazy, so you handle the craziness, and deal with it, and ignore her when she is not behaving normal,

make sure she likes the things you like, or ignore her/make fun of her

don't agree with her to get her to like you,
dis-agree with her, for the things you dis-like and shape her into something you like

crazy = avoid/handle
in love = contact/hangout


but you need to be trying to get every damn girl man, not just one, it doesn't work like that, especially when you are a nervous new guy, that can't even tell a girl you like her, have sex ASAP, escalate ASAP, find out if she is interested ASAP,

that way you don't waste to much time getting attached and needy, like it seems you are doing in this case, there are tons of women, lots of which would sleep with you in one day, if you just found her, and delivered some strong intent, escalated and isolated,

just have to practise, until you become desensitized and confident, re-program your brain until the anxiety is gone,

Coool shit!! Got it thanks alot man rofl!