anxiety is going low for me, fear of approach is gone, feel like i can say anything, can touch girls pretty easy, still have yet to finally get it in, im pretty ugly, not a very good body, have made somewhere around 150-250 approaches, not really any success, 1 solid number i have, I kissed her but she didn't kiss me back, she told me i was cute, and a bunch of other stuff, and reciprocated kino up until kiss, also told me she didn't want to date me, ever since i kissed her she still contacts me, but she will not meet me or hang out, guess she isn't interested, but im pretty new so I have no idea, about how many girls is it normal to approach for a girlfriend, if I am working on the personality traits to become successfull with women do I have to say negative things to women? looks really don't matter so it is just thing i have said wrong, what are some things to avoid saying? how can I improve my chances of a girlfriend?

I use to think i had to be mean when i joined the community an as a matter of fact it does work.
But has a much lower chance an why would you want to girls are fun to be around i dont want to hurt a girl i love them to much.

My advice for you is first join a gym it doesnt matter if you have to go on your own as you say you have no anxiety so go for it, it will give you confidence an naturally change your body language.

Learn body language aswell once you have it down looks go out the window well it did for me ps i have ginger hair but i still think im the sexiest bastard this world has ever saw. i walk around like a king.

I hangout with many hbs an of course i do get lads giving me shit because they are clueless how i do it but with body language i can scare of most lads an im also an aggresive guy when i choose to be. maybe a little bit animal like but it works.

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I think you are asking the wrong question here.

You can be negative and mean and get laid. Or you can be positive and nice and get laid.

The two are not directly related to how much tail you get. Think of alpha males you know. In fact take a random actionmovie, the good guy gets laid and the bad guy too. They are directly opposed to each other but they are both alpha males, both masters of their world.

I still think that if you are asking yourself this question, you have more important issues to deal with, such as, what is an alpha male and how do I become one?

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bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Confidence is the most important thing you need in order to get laid.

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Agreed!

Personally, I like treating girls like there my girlfriend. I maybe an asshole at time, but most the time, I am really friendly. Key thing is you have to lead. Especially when it comes to escalating to sex.

You gotta love PUAF math. 150-250 . . . lol . . .

^You're living your life upon guesswork and assumptions. Take some time to research this site or pick up ANY book on the subject and just follow the program.

I copy the opinions here. Both ways work. Bad, mean people show conficence and a strong frame - that works. So that's what leads to this false correlation of mean=gettin' laid IMO.

The type of girls you get when you're the mean ass guy is not my personal taste, so look with what kind of guys the girls you would like to have hang out with.

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No you don't have to be mean or negative to get laid. I never use negs and I get laid once every 3 months. I've been with over 80 girls. I also feel like a slut because of it.

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When you´re approaching a girl, what are you aiming for, whats ur plan? Just to approach? No wonder you aint getting nowhere. Have a plan. You dont need 250 approaches to get a lay. You need 1 approach, one girl, one lay. Thats it. When i go out and i want to fuck the hottest girl i can find, i approach her and make my best attempt to fuck her! If i cant and she says no, i find the second hottest girl i can find and so on. See? You gotta know where you are going. If you want to find a girlfriend, you need to know what kind of a girl you like. If you dont know, meet as many girls as possible and then find out which one you really like. If you know what your ideal girl is like, go for the one closest to that. Easy!

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Er, you get laid once every 3 months? That seems a little low.

I've not gotten laid that much (or at all) because of a stupid case of oneitis lately (and when my crush/former fuckbuddy was offering it to me, basically, I choked) has kept me from doing so, but seriously, once every 3 months? I consider that to be a TERRIBLE average.

Another PUAF math gem. Once every 3 months . . . 80 girls. That's 4 girls a year. You've been gaming for 20 years. And in that time, never F'd a girl twice? How old are you?