| ok, think of it like this, qualification
spouting off your qualifications, you are trying to prove yourself to someone,
if someone, says something cool, he makes you laugh, tells you this awesome story about the time he got the most drunk he had ever been, the story finishes, you are really emotionally attracted to him at this point, because his story was fucking cool,
so naturally, you feel slightly insecure compared to him, and instead of saying, wow fucking cool story bro, that must have been fun as fuck, you say,
i also got really drunk one time, it was pretty crazy,
telegraphing that he is higher social value then you, you try to qualify yourself to him, in order to gain his approval, if after you said that, he was like, wow that was a sick story must have been fucked up, what about the bla bla bla (shows interest in your story), now you feel validated by the guy who you just perceived for a moment as higher value, the validation means alot more to you that it came at this point because of the emotional state you were in at the time of his validation
but the above is not the actual, goal of qualification, getting someone to qualify themselves to you, and seek your approval, can create approval seeking patterns from them that can artificially spark some attraction, but the real goal, is just to set out things that you like to do, and things that you look for in someone you want to hang out with, then find out if the girl you are talking to likes to do those things, and if she posses those qualities, it is not some act just to generate approval seeking behavior, you should just truly want to know if you actually want to hang out with her, not only that but if she qualifies that she likes those things, BINGO now you have a topic to discuss with her that you both like, and a commonality has been found CAN YOU SAY EMOTIONAL CONNECTION MUCH BRO?,
if a girl keeps qualifying her self to you, without you requesting qualification, it is a good sign that she seriously cares what you think, the more insecure the person, the more they will just naturally try to qualify them selves, secure people usually just shut up, vibe, make random statements about shit, ask questions, talk about neutral subjects, and don't talk about themselves that much,
think of someone qualifying themselves as an investment, they care what you think, and want you to like them, if validate them for qualifying a small amount of investment has been built,
and investment is important, think of this, you have a HB9, and a HB7,
the HB9 offers more value to you, then the HB7 because of her looks,
so if you had to choose, you would pick HB9,
so that is who offers more value,
now consider this,
you just number closed the HB9, she suggests a date 1 hour away with her friends there, to go for a drink
the same day the HB7 calls you, you have already spent 2 weeks hanging out with her, you have made out with her, and got a handjob, she lives 15 minutes away, and she calls you, and tells you she wants to fuck the shit out of you at her house her roommate is gone,
now who are you more likely to go meet? the HB7 or the HB9?,
you are more invested with the HB7 but the HB9 is more valuable,
this is how investments such as qualification and sexual escalation can help you land girls
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