Met this awesome girl a couple of days ago, and she was just perfect.
Lovely appearance, brilliant sense of humor, seemed to be very comfortable in social settings and me touching her (just the shoulders and upper leg you pervs:p) and was responding very much to me negging her about her writing crooked.

Thing is, I facebook searched her and found out she has a boyfriend....
Good thing is he lives about 3 hours away, which means they don't see eachother that often.
Since we are both freshmen, I suspect this relationship isn't going to last all that long anyways.
I'm fully aware this might be a bit amoral, but wouldn't even consider this if the girl wasn't girlfriend material.

My question to you, my fellow friends of the good life, is how do I go about this? Should I be playing into the insecurities every relationship has, or just keep plowing until she mentioned she even has a boyfriend? (as she doesn't know I know that right now)

Cheers, Olivier

First and foremost answer a question for yourself. Are you OK with banging or taking someone's girlfriend? Be honest. IF so, go ahead, proceed. If not, ask yourself if you're willing to sacrifice your moral fabric for pussy. It's your decision. Many guys do.

Another thing is... you're overanalyzing things. If you like her, OK with the BF thing, go ahead, date her, bang her, girlfriend her, wife her, whatever. Don't overanalzye things and don't try to look too far ahead and ask too many what ifs. It doesn't help you.

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O and if you go for it, don't bring up the BF of course. If she does - ignore it and change thread. My guess is if she let you touch her "upper leg" she doesn't like her BF very much and is probably in the latter staages of leaving him and if she likes you she will probably never tell you abotu the BF because she doesn't want to discourage you.

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if you want to have sex with girls that have boyfriends, thats your deal, no reason to deal with it or bring it up unless she does, act like you don't know, if she brings it up and you want to continue then strawman technique, but you realize at some point you are going to have to show interest, it is not some secret sneak attack, you don't just neg a girl into a blowjob, it isn't all hey, nice nails, are they real?, oh well they look nice anyways!, btw how short are you?, ohhh plz... back off how do you roll with this girl, *girl starts unzipping your pants*, no... you get some indication that she likes you, then you see if she will qualify herself for you, then you show interest (hit on her) for qualifying herself to you, then you release the tension, after 3 iois, qualify, go for kiss, then build comfort, that is MM structure, it is not stay in attraction for 10 days, constantly negging and DHVing, no kiss no escalation, you find out if girl likes you, qualify , go for kiss, either works or it doesn't, need to find out, MM is flawed because interactions with girls are not linnear like the gameplan, it is meant to be pulled off within 2 days, and the kiss takes place shortly after meeting

Meh, I'm not that much after sex I guess. I'm in college and could get one night stands if I wanted to. Not really my style. What I am looking for is a decent connection with another human being of the opposite sex, so yeah more of a relationship I guess. And it just so happens that comes down to sex in later stages I don't mind that much:p

My goal, if you want to call it that, would be get her to break up with her boyfriend so I can start dating her.

you've already gotten some great answers, but ask yourself this:
if she is okay with you hitting on her, and touching her, and later on maybe more while she has a boyfriend, is she really girlfriend material then?

whose to say she wont do the same to you? And sure the relationship she's in right now might be going badly, but if you use that even for a second as an excuse you're fooling yourself, I think we all know that all relationships has ups and downs, and it's not an excuse to cheat.

you should definitely do whatever you want with this girl, but I would personally never consider her as LTR material if she misbehaves the second i turn around.

whatever you decide, i wish you the best of luck

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Because i can.

Got the boyfriend bomb today, not as an excuse but brought up in a story....
Well guess that's that then...I was even willing to pretend he didnt exist as long as she didn't bring him up :p
Intentionally going to get in the friend zone with this one:)


Thanks for your help anyways guys, see you on my next Q!