So let me start by saying that I'm a freshmen in college, about a week ago I went out and met a big group of people and befriended all of them. In this group there are these 2 HB8 Asian twins. We hit it off really well, my roommate and I led the group, had everyone laughing, kept conversations going and we #closed them that night.

The next day one of them added me on facebook (let's just call her heather.. She's the one I'm focusing on) and said that my roommate and I should hang out with them (just the twins) soon, because they thought we'd get along really well. So we set up a few dinner/lunch dates, had a movie night, just a bunch of kinda fun stuff (we're all new to college and don't have any party connections or anything, so we just improvise). Whenever I'm out with anyone I can make them laugh and have a good time regardless of what we're doing (one of my best qualities). I've done some minor physical escalation with her (all day time) such as hugging, putting my arm around her, gently leading her, etc.

A few days ago I met a girl named Sara (HB7) who I'm not interested in getting with, but since I've met her, she's been with me all the time. We're super flirty together and always hugging/holding onto each other. Heather saw us together, so last night when I was hanging out with her and her twin, she asked if me and Sara were dating, so I said no, and told her I wasn't interested in her (Sara) we're just friends. That same night a bunch of us took pictures together and she changed her FB default to the one of just her and I. She asks me to come to her dorm or go out to dinner with her all the time, but then she seems really uncomfortable whenever I touch her.

One of our other female friends was talking to them and apparently they think that my roommate is a super flirty man whore and that I'm a nice guy. Which is weird because I flirt with them way more than he does.

Last night on the walk home she was cold, so her sister said she would hug her to warm her up, she said no, so I said I would do it instead. She said no to me too, I feel like I'm getting a lot of mixed signals from her. When we parted ways, I usually leave her with a hug and a smile, but instead I stood a few inches away, looked her in the eyes, smiled and said "bye" then walked away. My roommate looked back and she was standing there, sad and confused. Dunno if that was a good idea or not, felt right.

So basically, my question is, is this girl just being friendly towards me or is she actually interested? I'm having a hard time telling and would like some input. I'll try to check this every few hours, but I'm pretty busy.

I'm really sorry if this is confusing, I'm typing this in between classes and am kind of in a rush.

K, i think i know the kind of girl you're talking about. I used to be confused too about girls that acted this way. And yes "Heather" is interested in you! I'm sure she is not someone that wants to be just friends with you. It looks to you like she acts counterintuitive, but it's not. She is pissed.

Firstly, when she asked you about Sara you said you were just friends with her. So what is Heather going to think? "Well, he is flirty with me as well, so he probably sees me as a friend too..." You're surprised that they think of you as a nice guy? Really?

Now, how i would recommended you'd approach this.
What she looks for is verbal, that's why she responded negatively to you hugging her. Next time you see her you need to tell her that you like her. She is confused probably more than you, so it's important that you'd be blunt about your intentions. You can then go for a kiss or continue any physical escalation from the point that you have stopped.

Dude going through the same sort of situation as you.

Katie (ill call her) is flirty when we hang out and text, even to the point of physically torturing me with her nails (she found out im a massochist). When ever i talk about another girl she automatically becomes deffensive. Example. "Ill f**k the b***h up if she touches you".

Yet shes constantly sending mixed messages. A female friend told me that its a deffensive mechanism, and that since katie knows my history, even though theres a chance she wants me, shes being guarded until she knows my true intentions with her.

So basically just let her know how you feel and see how it plays out.

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I look her deep in the eye before leaning in closely, my lips millimetres from her ear. I whisper seductively
"You have something in your teeth"

Just kiss her, you don't have to tell her shit.

The moment you kiss her, she knows that you like her, and that you aren't just flirting with girls for fun.

......... Yeah that could work as well

If you have the right IOI's that is.

if she rejects you? who cares. move on

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I look her deep in the eye before leaning in closely, my lips millimetres from her ear. I whisper seductively
"You have something in your teeth"

It sounds like you put in a decent amount of work. You might just have to get drunk and go for it one night. Next time you go out take her by the hand lead her away and start making out with her. This might work better if she's drunk to. You don't want to miss your chance. The friend zone is a tough zone to get out of and most girls move on pretty quick. There attraction to you dosen't last forever.

This is what I would do but I tend to put all my eggs in one basket.

this please the longer you wait the more you blow it

Well, she's not going out of way to especially confuse you, you know?

Just take your chances.

When you see or feel the right signs, go for the kiss.

You'll get your answer. In the meanwhile, her mixed signals might also suggest a lack of an established comfort level between you two. Why don't you work on that?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Thanks for the advice everyone, yesterday I was supposed to go with her to a bookstore off campus with her, but there was 'miscommunication' (I didn't get her text on where to meet) and she wound up going without me. Later that night though she invited me over to her dorm to keep her company while she did homework. I was gonna go for it there but her twin was there the entire time, I'm having a lot of trouble isolating her since they're almost always together and it feels weird to try when her sisters right there watching.

I'm definitely going to try and get her one on one by this weekend though as I feel my window of opportunity is closing.