I'm happy to report in after a few months of hiatus that my online profile on POF has attracted over 80 pages of emails in the span of a few short months. I'm very thankful to the members of this community.

However, I'm having some big-time trouble in a few areas...

I am getting about on average 2-3 women saying hello to me per week it's pretty variable between HB1 (no for real) and HB8 sometimes. I'm losing track of conversations sometimes for a day or two at a time and that seems to be a big deal killer for some women. This is getting even worse when a woman gives me her number and wants me to text her, texting is just a little impersonal for me to have a conversation.

Plus admittedly I have a little bit of anxiety about transitioning from email over to text at first. The other week ago I met a girl for karaoke she had doctored her online photos turned out to be an angry crackwhore and also on top of breaking furniture and other weird stuff ran me up a nice $100 tab on drinks when I was just having beers pretty wild story. Anyways...

Lastly I don't feel I'm just being sexual enough. I neg a lot like all the time in natural conversation if I'm not being AFC but over text it's kind of tough I just try to remember to use smileys often. I'm having a hard time getting conversations to be sexual though and women are losing interest except for a few I'm trying to look back at logs and see what I did right those times.

The angle I'm going for with women is one of being a gentleman, I don't consider myself a PUA. It's actually true of me that's how I was raised and I have two parents who are 36 years happily married. I am not going about this for the aspects of being a player but the fact that women want sexual stimulation to get to the next level with them. A couple of women have already accused me of being a player though because I think I may be overdoing it.

Pointers are welcome. I will link to my profile privately upon request.

Seriously any pointers guys?

To me it seems you just need to tackle the problems you self-stated. If you think you're being not sexuel enough, grab your balls and do something ballsy. If you think you're being a pussy by not daring to make a move, don't be one and act. Texting a girl is no big deal. The harshest possible response to a text is no text back. That isn't so hard ain't it? So dance some fucking tango.

If you're new in the game it all seems so dangerous. With every move you make you feel like you're putting all your selfworth on the line and you need to 'win' every 'battle' you enter. There is no such. Gaming equals losing, gaming equals creating a thick skin, gaming equals doing things you normally would not do. But for every downside you will occur there xill be the numbrous upsides.

Personally I love the thrill of not knowing where it will go. In these few seconds before I make I move I'll get all tensed up. And then I say to myself: let the games begin. And fuck it, I've been rejected a fair number of times. But I've had my fair share of fun too.


It's like a box of chocolates really.

I agree with you, but it's kind of like jumping into a battlefield without a plan of attack. Now, as of Friday night I'm banging someone but it was very easy to get her to talk about things she liked sexually. On the downside though I had to dump my POF account to get her to think I'm not a player. Really with my ADD I find it hard to juggle multiple conversations with women anyway. I don't really like having to give that much that soon. I can always go back and create a new one though so it's not that huge a deal.

A couple of times I've had some mild success simply asking a girl, "What are you looking for romantically in a partner?" It would probably not surprise you how many women don't even respond with the whole "I like candles I like poetry" thing no they jump right into "I want sex every day" so we can go from there. I find it difficult though sometimes to get back into a sexual conversation after we've had one before. Gotta figure out a way to spice it up a little. Me personally, I love to eat the pussy, no lie I'm a giver.