First of all, huge chunk of text. Second, i work in this mall for Coke and there are these girls that get payed to promote certain brands for a week or so.

There's this HB 10 that's been coming in promoting Always and yesterday i started talking to her. Really nice gall, grounded and not stuck up. Made her laugh a lot, chatted a bit. She'd smile a lot to me whenever i'd walk past by her, and when i ignored her once, she said "why you being so upset" with one of those funny frowned faces with her cheeks swollen. Met her in the buss station, gave me a big "Heeeey". When she got off the buss she stopped by me and said "bye" again, lingered next to me for a while. I definetly felt like she was giving me shittons of IOI's and interest.

Today i go up to talk to her again, made her laugh a fucking lot, called me funny. Problem is i didn't do much kino and i think this got me in the friends zone. I did some C&F, made her talk a lot about herself, she asked me where i live, told me that she likes running, hobbies, what kind of car she's getting from her parents, she opened up a bit. I felt like escalating a bit so i started being more flirty, i told her that that shawl looked sexy on her ( my words). She said "really now?" and smiled. Also said that she likes my Iphone, out of the blue, i was surprised. She said she's going on a lunch break, so i got my shit together and told her (told not asked, winner's mindset, learned that the hard way) to come get some apple pie with me cos i hear it's great. I can't remember exactly what she said about it but didn't want to eat pie and then a fucking customer comes along and she starts presenting her damn tampons. I did the mistake of telling her that if she wants to eat some pie with me that i'm around.

I leave cos she's with the customer, 1 minute later i see her leaving. We run into each other some time later and she stops me asking me if i know the difference between the Skittles she bought and some other kind. We check them out, laugh some more, i do some C&F, and i say "So you don't want to eat some pie with me afterall." and she's like "I just bought these, maybe some other day" or something like that, really dodgy and evasive. Didn't say No, Never, Fuck off, i have BF, etc, but really evasive. But here's where the shit starts happening. I don't know if it's in my head and i'm being paranoid.

But i see some dodging and avoiding on her part. Before she'd sit in the front of the aisle where she'd be doing her shit, now whenever she'd see me from afar coming by she'd go in, not expose herself that much anymore. Then bam after i'd leave she'd be out again. I walk past her once and she was with a customer, looked away from the customer and she gave me a huge fucking smile, like she was happy to see me. Did the same, acted cool and like that "no" didn't bother me (though it did because it's intriguing). Mind fuck.

We leave work and i get to the buss station first, then she comes along and sits 20 yards away from me, doesn't come say hi or whatever, totally ignores me. Cold shit. As she's getting off the buss she gave me a big smile and mouthed a "goodbye" since she sat away from me. Gave her a smile and a bye back, acting nonchalant and again like i'm not bothered.

Total mind fuck or i'm just overreacting. Is she just being nice and polite and am i Friend Zoned ? Also, how would you guys handle this if there actually was a glimmer of hope as to not come off as being too needy?

let her know what you want from her. thats it! dont wait for it come to you. this is just giving the control over to the girl. you dont want that.

So no beating around the bush, just ask her out for a drink or something

its as simple as this,

you: HEY HBCOKE I THINK YOU'RE KINDA CUTE, LETS GO GET DO XTHING ON XDAY it will be really fun

contingency #1

hbcoke: yeah ok

contingency #2

hbcoke: haha but i got Xexcuse/flake

you: (for contingency #2) OK well are you free to hang out in the next two weeks? (set date if she flakes on you before or after the plans are made, she is not interested)

Nah dude, I say give it some space. At least a week or two. Definitely project positive energy whenever you see her, be happy and friendly, but no need to seek to hang out with her right now.

Wouldn't the initial attraction die off if we just hit it as buddies ? (assuming there is one)

Don't be buddies, be friendly and a little distant. Never insult her, be positive about your outlook on life, her, and your opinion of yourself.

She doesn't seem that interested, probably sees you more as a friend. Rather than push her to like you, back off, let yourself and your social skill develop more, and you'll be ready to make a good impression when she forgets about this awkwardness.

Thanks, i'll give it a week then

So, she is giving you the hot/cold behavior eh?

Don't fret too much about it. Women do it naturally.

Why don't you give her a taste of her own medicine eh, Doctor?

Also, don't get too affected by her words or her actions. Indifference is the key to pick-up.

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I gave her the cold shoulder today, wasn't rude or anything just ignored her a lot, though we talked some. And every time i'd pass by her i could see it with the corner of my eye that she would look at me walking by and waiting for me to look at her. I did give her the occasional smile though as to not come as uptight. She'd always give me a huge smile every time she'd see me.

After work i was in the buss station with 2 girls i just met, laughing and having lots of fun. There she comes (I was doing my best to look like i'm having a blast with other people/girls and being outgoing and social). Sits by my left and i completely ignored her. Cracked a few jokes with the girls, and she started giggling, trying to get get into the chit chat even though nobody was paying her any attention. I did some C&F with her (she made an oh em gee face and i could see it on her face that she couldn't believe someone was teasing her), made her laugh quite a bit, some kino, some DHV. I was about to make the mistake of asking her out (too early after being rejected yesterday, or is it ?) but i think i'll just ignore her some more tomorrow (Friday) and ask her out Monday. Or should i ask her tomorrow ? Thoughts ?

(you were right btw Don Draper)

Do not ask her out unless you have built enough attraction with her.

And for God's sake, meet her someplace where you both are not fulfilling your professional commitments. Okay?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "