so i was wondering if you guys often say to yourself THIS girl is my target, even if you dont really get off to a good start. or do you just go for the next one?? because i have this right now. there are this HBblond i really have been trying to get something going with. and it havent really worked out as planned, but something tells me i should keep on trying?? what do you think?

I have this problem a lot. It ruins me.

I'll be chatting with a girl in a club and will be plenty of flirting and IOI's but not get any escalation to anything more. Do I give up or move on? Nope.. I'll stick with the target all night.

End of the day though, if you really want to and really do believe there is an opportunity to create, stick at it, but don't put all your focus into it that you miss other opportunities too. Find that happy medium.

It depends

It is not good just to have ONE target. Then you unaware will be too needy, too focussed on one. The girl will feel uncomfortable.

But it is no good NOT to have a target, just some and see what happens.

Better is to have several targets:
a target at college/ a friends' friend/someone from the gym/ etc.

okey thanks guys

To me the question and story say different things. Yes, when I first open I set, I always choose a target and stick to gaming her. Why put time in on gaming one girl when you're just going to turn around and try for her friend? And she won't always be receptive to you early on, no reason to give up on her.

But it sounded like you were saying that this particular girl seemed to still have potential to be in your life. She might still have possibilities, but its so much more important that you go out and find other girls. It's so much easier to build yourself up into a good place than it is to dig yourself out of a hole. If you've screwed up with this girl in the past, it'll only get harder from here on.

If we're talking about clubs, pick a target, and stick with her for 20 mins. If in that time, you're not REALLY getting to know her, or have some sort of Kino going, I'd suggest to find a different target.

Think about it, how many routines are you going to run on someone if you know the outcome is extremely uncertain?

Save time and effort by just letting go. Find a new target and concentrate your energies on her.

If it's someone who might be in your life constantly, be warned. In general, a guy has a good solid chance to make a good first impression. If you missed that opportunity, it might be really difficult to get that girl.

Hope it helps.

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