So I k-closed this cute girl at a bar on Thursday but. Now she wont answer my calls or text. I texted her the next morning to see if she made it back to her place alright, got no response. Called her a few hours later, no response. Then later that night I sent her another text saying something like "hey, wtf I've been trying to hit you up".

Then I didn't try contacting her until last night after read that thread in the pua lounge where you text "I've had a crush on you for years". Convo went like this:

Me: D we need to talk
Girl: ?
Me: I've had a crush on you for years
Girl: how?? We just met
Me: days feel like years. Lettuce be reality, your attractive, I'm attractive, we would make wonderful babies.
(no response)
Me: I'm pouring my heart out and you just leave me hangin??


Haha not the smoothest stuff in the world but I was laughing so hard at the convos in that thread that I had to try it out. Plus it kinda went along with the way I was acting when I met her.

So anyways, should I try hitting this girl up in a few days? Or should I just drop it?

Clearly you've fucked something up at the bar.

This kinda thing happens to me when for some reason I don't care about the girl that I'm sarging and I'm just looking for some validation.

Or she knows I have a gf, than thinks about it, and decides she doesn't wanna see me.

"I'm attractive, we would make wonderful babies." sounds lame.

If you want to pursue her, you can call her and say "Hey, you seem like a nice girl. I want to start this over. Hi, my name is whatever."

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Ye I was a bit sloppy, hammered drunk, but I was still able to throw some game out there. She kept talking about how she was a model and lived in a nice house blah blah blah.

So I may have been a little too harsh when I negged her and said something like "w/e, your not even that hot". After that she got pissed and walked off, at that time the bar closed and I went outside to smoke and talked to her friends for a bit. When the girl that I was talking to came back out I signaled for her to co e over to me, she did, I put my arm around her and said something like " you shouldn't be so sensitive, your still really cute". I then asked for her number and she said "no you just asking for it to be nice". So I told her to "shut up" with a smile on my face and a that I really wanted her number. So she gave it to me, I then put my hand on the side of her face/neck and brought her closer to me and asked if I could get a kiss before I leave. She agreed, kissed a couple times, and I left.

So idk, thought I ended well, but like I said, I was hammered drunk. Haha so the night may have been did that I remember.

It's impossible to type correctly on these iPads.... Typos everywhere I look!

this is buyers remorse. shes had a change of heart because shes thought about that night, and probably brushed it off as a drunken escapade

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That's just mean. Why would you say something like that?
Good job. I would procide with "Shut up". keep eye contact and pause. "Come here." pause, keep eye contact. Pull her in very slowly and make out passionately.
Never ask if you can kiss her. And this kiss sounds to me like comfort kiss, not attraction/arousal kiss.

Btw, this forum is so addictive. I have to go study, I'm so gonna fail this exam.

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true.

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Yeah agreed this is buyer remorse, she probably need it some validation and you give it plenty of enough for her. First you were too needy one txt is enough, if she doesn’t answer don’t try it again you are going to lower your value. And she probably will brag to all of her friends that she meet one guy and he felt in love then he stalked and sending me txt geez was only a kiss.

What I usually do this is first make it a challenge all night something she can hold on, PUSH PULL, so you become more attractive. Lets be honest, there are a lot of girls that in Club will kiss you without you having to do anything, is just girl drunk or desperate trying to regain some confidence, or she has the hormones boiling

Definitely drop this one you did too many mistakes..

damn... alright, live and learn

let me give some advice dont drink too heavy and then expect much from a pickup think of this as a learning experience

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ye forshure, just started getting into this so i was feeling a bit nervous, especially since i went out solo that night and had hit up 3 other bars before hand. Sooo ye, next time, just a couple drinks and im going out with a few friends.

My biggest hurtle is keeping a convo going, I can easily stick with the same boring "interview" questions but its hard for me to connect on a deeper level with someone at a bar.

Like could I just open a girl with a line like "i like you, youve got a cute smile" introduce myself then ask if she wants to go somewhere more quite? Or should I stick at the bar or around her friends for a bit and make small talk before asking if she wants to ge somewhere alone with me?

Sometimes it's difficult to keep conversations going when:
a) she's not being too talkative.
b) You've been in the set for too long.

Next time, try to reduce the time you spend in a set. I always have in mind that I need to get the girl's number, email, kiss, or whatever, before I screw things up.

I dont mean to rush things up, but to understand that you shouldn't be in a set for too long, or you may run into uncomfortable situations.

If anything, I think you got a kiss close, and that's more than maybe 70% of the guys at that bar got that night lol.

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using alcohol is like a crutch in pick up im not saying dont drink just dont drink heavy. think about this let say one day you decide to try viagra next time you have sex you think this is good so you you use it next time then the next time then it becomes a point where you have to use it to get a boner, you have to be able to get a boner without it. you have to able to pickup without the booze

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Hi,

Thanks very much for this comment. It help me to think about my ideals.

Tks again and pls keep posting.

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