I am extremely shy and would like to get rid of it. I rarely talk to strangers , I talk to my family though. The thing is with me is that I don't know what to say. If the guy overloads me with words I'm as good as an explosion! If he says a couple words I'm pretty fine. And I have some anxiety when initiating convos too..Anyone know a fix?

Dude, I wish I met you. It would be like looking in the mirror. Trust me, I'm also shy, and the only cure is to force yourself to talk to people. My main problem is I hate debating and arguing, cause I rarely win an argument and just stand there like an idiot with low value.
If you're shy talking, I know how it feels. But just know that the more you think about talking to someone that's standing in front of you, the more you won't actually talk. So the best thing to do is go for it. Balls out.

What is it that you are afraid of, if I may ask?

As with most things there is just one golden rule with Pick-Up:

Learn by Doing!

You can read every book and go to every seminar but if you dont EXPERIENCE the events, then they'll never truly settle into you subconscious and you'll never take the next step.

Its all about the baby steps, sometimes you'll mess up, sometimes you'll come away with the biggest smile on your face!

It's just about DOING.

your only criteria for success should be that you approached.
If you approach and get blown out THEN ITS A WIN. IT SHOULD PUMP YOU UP

The key to this is to train yourself to have intent and be free from the outcome.
To go even deeper and to develop this you want to ask yourself if you are looking for validation, are you looking for the girl to give you a positive response? Or are you doing it to be happy with yourself and become something that you want.

Remember that Happiness is your default setting, when you were a child would you be scared to go up to someone and say whatever the fuck you wanted? NO, you would just go up to little johnny on the playground and say "HEY JOHNNY DO YOU WANT TO COME AND PULL SARAH'S HAIR WITH ME? OK LETS GO"
Were you thinking about what Johnny would say? Were you thinking "omg what if johnny doesnt want to come and pull Sarahs hair with me omg im going to be so sad if he doesnt" FUCK NO! IF HE SAID NO YOU WOULD JUST BE LIKE "OK FINE ILL GO PULL HER HAIR BY MYSELF" AND THEN GO DO IT AND RUN AWAY LAUGHING!!! hahaha

Stop thinking and start doing. If you anticipate a positive response then you most likely will get a positive response. If not then just go pull Sarah's hair by yourself (meaning go up to a new girl and try again)

Remember to learn by doing, free yourself from the outcome and the real LEARNING can BEGIN!

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OMG , I am scared of debates and arguing also!Simply because I don't know what to say... in my mind it's going in a look like this "What do I say to this...what do I say to that..." and it repeats and I just blow myself up virtually. The main thing I'm really afraid of is negativity towards me :/ you know..that feeling that you are an idiot. I'm pretty sensitive to that I guess nature made me that way!
Thank you thank you so much! You said it in the most positive frame I have ever seem! Thanks for the goood advice!

I think this may take time, i agree with noochie however i;ve found that being natural as he says without thinking requires a certain level of self-esteem.

Perhaps go out with some more accomplished wings, observe their behaviour and the responses they get and im sure they'll introduce you and youll eventually start taking more and more risks....start small!

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