Hi All

I guess im just a bit down as ive lost my job i also seem to have a bit of oneitis with my personal trainner but i think ive finaly accepted that she has a b/f and i have no chance.

The only issue being is that i kind of use her as a bench mark now and dont see that many other women that look as good as her or have such a great personality.

I've been going out with a fellow PUA guy who is about 10 years older than me hes good as he makes alot of approaches but he never seems to get anyhwere im thinking he is too old and is approaching women half his age.

I mean if something isn't working he should change it right?
He is not really a friend and i find him a bit boring really does not tease girls either.

Ok i wasn't really feeling it when i went out on saturday and didnt make that many approaches but i feel he is too old to be hanging around with. He shouted at me a bit saying "are you going to make any approaches tonight or what" he had a point but i didnt like that one bit so considering my optitions.

I like some of my regular mates but all they do is get drunk but im thinking if i neglect my real mates then one day i wont have any real friends left just some strangers who i met through PUA.

I guess its all about striking a balance what do you guys think?

Thanks

I think you need something new. Get into new social circle. Join some classes or something. You will get to know new people. Change your attitude into being active and interested to get to know new people. Don't limit yourself by thinking that what you need are women. What you need is new people in your life.
If your buddies wanna get drunk so what? Use them as a stepping stone. I bet they know at least someone cool apart you with whom you would enjoy hanging out.

All in all my point is - get something new into your life.
If you just lost job you will get another one and that will mean LOTS and LOTS of new people aka Fresh start.
Try to see positive in everything that happens.
You decide if its good or bad that you lost your job - maybe its for the best, you won't know..
Everything that happened is valuable experience. Take it all as a feedback and move on.

Thanks great reply im glade i did meet her anyway she made me realise what im missing out on! and I have started to be more social and make more friends nowadays its sociably acceptable to make friends you met online.

you thinking too much mate... who gives a crap about if it is or isn't? You know - you do what you wanna do and nobody can tell you that its good or wrong, you the only one who can decide it...

Age irrelevant if you got game, i am 35, i get 19 year olds, but not my target, my target 24-28... Do not hang around with guy that has not game, it will just bring you down, and your value, cause if he is getting rejected his value goes down, and you are guilty by association, i hang out alone, or with a wing, but if his value go down, i leave him alone, and do my thing...

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Great advice guys thanks again

That guy is a creeper. Don't hang out with him. Stop going to bars and night clubs to pick women up if you are not getting anywhere. Take a dance class and learn to flirt instead. Sign up for some events like dodgeball or something. You gotta build up your social circle or go out to events or lessons or get into a community like a dancing community or improv or theater or movies or sports or art - something. Then you rub shoulders with lots of women, and you can just chat and flirt and pretty soon you'll fish one out